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Why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more than those in the past?

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Nov 15, 2008

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THE FOLLOWING POST IS ABOUT 3 YEARS OLD. I WAS 14 AT THE TIME. THE FOLLOWING LINK IS MY PRESENT OPINION ABOUT THE SAME TOPIC. I AM ALMOST 18 NOW http://youthvoices.net/discussion/views-teenager-not-teacher-and-not-parent

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Teens nowadays are starting to become sexually active at such a young age. Some, believe it or not, at the age of 11! It angers me though to know that such young kids that should be playing with toys and stuff are starting to do adult things.

I don't know why they are doing it; is it like a game to them? Does it make them cooler to say "Oh I had sex."? Before a kid talking about sex was never heard of. They were never told about the consequences about it or were educated about it.

Why are our teens taking risks while their being educated? Is it because that we are being talked about sex that teens have decided to start doing it? Should we have been told about it? Yes we should be talked about it, but we shouldnt do it until we are at a certain age or until we are married.

I feel I can blame parents for this. They are not really on top of their children like they should be. Sometimes they are giving them too much freedom and their children are taking advantage of it. They should also give their children the confidence to go up to them with any questions they have and not tell them that sex is wrong because its not, just doing it at a young age is.

I also blame the Internet because teens can have access to porn sites or chat rooms [cyber sex, curiosity can lead to having sex]

I asked some of my friends who have been active, "Why do you do it?". And they have been giving me lame answers like oh because it feels good or because I love him or her.

At a really young age I doubt we know what love is. We're still kids. And even if we did know what love is, we dont have to have sex to love someone. Some though are pressured into having sex. we should be strong enough and smart enough to say NO. I know that some are thinking about it and doubting whether they should.

If you're doubting DONT DO IT!!!!!!! THATS YOUR CONSCIENCE TELLING YOU NOT TO DO IT!!!!! Some may think that what im saying is stupid, and that's fine with me. I can't control your actions. But those who I have made them do some thinking I'm glad! If this is how our youth is TODAY, what would become of our next generation?

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Serious restrictions needed

Submitted by eguaman on Mon, 2008-11-17 19:19.
Dear Carmen,
 
I think what you wrote about kids having sex at such a young age out of age, as in you are mostly mad about it.  You even said it in the writing.  But I think in order to bring discipline to these kids we have to set some restrictions.  Yes I do agree with you on what you wrote, that there should be some more restrictions on this. 
 
Some of the biggest things that are making kids have this is, the T.V which is easy to block, but what is becoming out of reach is the Internet access.  I think that some parents don't know how to restrict some things, and how to use a computer so the kids have the freedom to go in and do whatever they want which causes them going into these restricted websites.  Then that causes them to become really curious of what that is causing them to go and do it.  Now I'm not saying that this is what causes them to do it.  It is also the way parents educate children about the topic.  In general the way people use to talk about sex and educate about sex is totally different than how our parents were educated about this. 
 
I also agree with you in that kids should start to be educated at a young age to not have it, and to have a conversation with them to let them know at what certain age they should do it.  Its like when they are little kids and you tell them that stealing is a bad thing and that they shouldn't do it because it will affect them in the future, and everything, that is how we should talk to them about it.  In this world to isolate them from it is really hard, either they will hear it in school, or will find it on their computer, or T.V. 
 
What I don't agree with you is that just because we are kids we don't know what love is.  I think we pretty much know what love is, is that we don't know how to manage love, and how to take care of it, and what the responsibility comes from love.  Of course at a young age we could say we are in love, this doesn't mean it isn't true, but it does not need to be taken seriously.
 
In school there are bad influences other kids which have no supervising from the parents, and do whatever they want, and then the bad things they learned they teach the kids that have their parents supervision, and then they start to do it.  That is why I said that when this happens usually parents get angry and just punish them after they do it, but don't necessarily talk to them about it, and why they are getting punished, and what they did wrong. 
 
The freedom given to us by our parents are too much I agree but back in the day the freedom was scarce, and that made us into conservative, and very strict people, there should be a normal amount of freedom, and a normal amount of enforcement on rules, so that kids don't feel pressured with them, which causes them the temptation to break the rules. 
 
Your writing on this subject is really interesting I have some things I agree with and some things I don't agree with.  I would definitely look forward to seeing what your nest discussion post is about.  Thanks for sharing.
 

 

i guess what i ment to say

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Thu, 2008-11-20 18:02.

i guess what i ment to say is that, okay lets say we do know what love is, but we dont need to have sexual intercourse with them to love them. thats what i ment :]

thenks for your reply and im glad to see people agree with me =]

take care x3

Hey I think that many are

Submitted by dtacuri on Tue, 2009-10-06 09:13.

Hey I think that many are sexually active now a days than in the past is because of what we see in movies and even in our music. Now a days many movies have sex secens that make our age see that sex is cool if a person were to sit down and watch a movie from the past you won't see many sex secens the most u see is two couples kissing and at times you dont see that movies or shows are somehow a big impact on the things we do especially for kids younger than us that want to fit in to some kind of social group and for them to get an idea from somewhere that sex is cool they will also do it

I agreed with you because

Submitted by bfall on Mon, 2009-10-26 22:49.

I agreed with you because really you don't have to tell someone that you love them to have sex with them.

I think the part of it is school because they give free condoms to student, which is wrong, is like telling them "Have sex we have your back, there wrong about it." I wishpeople can see what we are trying to talk about.  So many people our age will say it's stupid.

In our day's the word virgin is useless because no one is virgin. I made a promise that I want have sex until I married, and I will kept my promise.I know many of you will think I stupid crazy their something wrong with me, but is okay, the people who think that I am right that's good.

I think teens have sex to look cool, to nshow that they aren't kids any more. I think as the way we grown up our grand children will have sex with the of 6,7,8 years old.

I know there  a way to stop it but we have to find it. 

 

Dear equaman - Your response

Submitted by lmartynova on Sat, 2010-04-17 08:59.

Dear equaman -

Your response "serious restrictions needed" caught my attention because I saw the word "parents." I think it's the parents' responsibity to educate their children about sex and responsibity. I agree with you that some of the parents don't know - or don't want? - how to do it. I don't think it's right to give up on your own children... I understand that a lot of parents have their own problems with which they have a hard time dealing, but they are the parents and it's their primary responsibility.

Thank you for bringing it up.

Lia

 

i think that your respond

Submitted by 12avilas on Thu, 2008-11-20 10:11.

i think that your respond about this is very serious but i also think that its really dumb to do such thing before thinking about it. your writing really got into my brain lol. it made me think that there is no point in doing such thing for so called love because we dont know love at all like you said we are just children and dont know much about those things.

F*** Boysss; I hug myself every morning when I wake up! (; ROFll

Submitted by 12chenj on Thu, 2008-11-20 10:22.

Yessss I liked how you proved your point using all this evidence (humanities lol) Seriously, it's true. Kids are kids, I don't think it's right for kids to have more children. It's wrong and disgusting, and just because 'you let a guy stick up his thing in you,' doesn't mean your cool or popular. Kids shouldn't know about all this, remember when race issues only mean that who ran the fastest, a miniskirt didn't mean you were a slut, high meant swinging around on the playground and we all couldn't wait to grow up....

I really like the way you brought out this teen sex issue.... and you wrote it like you felt comfortable w/ talking about it. That's what a true writer doess; feel comfortable with what they are writing about.

Ahh carmenn<3 I'll be looking forward to your next postt(:

i agree

Submitted by 12rivash on Thu, 2008-11-20 10:25.

carmen i really agree with you because that is true why are kids having sex if we are educated not to. i think these kids have sex because they get curious and want to experiance what sex really is. the more you tell some one not to the more they do it. i really agree with you. =)

i agree too.

Submitted by 12lugoa on Sun, 2008-11-23 20:32.

dear poster,

i agree with every word you said because kid are curious about what sex really is. talking to teens about sex, drugs, and drinking and how it's bad is like talking to a baby and telling them not to put their finger in the fan. We wont stop being curious until we are satsified with an answer.

i also agree with but then

Submitted by wosharell on Fri, 2010-02-19 12:16.

i also agree with but then you have to realize alot of teens dont have their parents with them to teach them about sex and sometimes school dont really help them out either

Agree!!

Submitted by ArieleB on Thu, 2008-11-20 14:52.

 I completely agree. I feel that people should grow up gradually rather than super fast. Childhood is fun, and there's no reason to cut it off. It's nice to be friendly and flirty with a boy, but being sexually active is too much. 

I didn't know that people as young as 11 start having sex. That's absurd.

I agree with you when you say that people should choose not to have sex. Being innocent keeps you sane. I believe that people that people should start doing this in college. That's where you are mature, and have better judgment and reasoning.

I'm a freshman in high school, and I'm being catious about this matter, even though some of my friends are ahead of me. I am not jealous of them.

I want to know more of what you write. I like to see people that agree with my ideas.

Ariele

believe it or not 11 or 12

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Thu, 2008-11-20 18:08.

believe it or not 11 or 12 year olds are starting to be active. 

I too have friends who have done it and they talk about it as if it were something to be proud of.  I dont say anything because they wont listen.  Like i had stated, i cant control people's actions, i can give them my opinion but at the end its their choice.

Thanks for your reply =] take care.

I do not necessarily agree

Submitted by ELashley on Thu, 2008-11-20 21:18.

I do not necessarily agree to the fact that teens of today all think it's cool to say, "hey I had sex." It's more of a way to show that they cared for someone enough to actually share something so passionate and deep as to have sexual relations with them. Yes, some teens do think they're cool for having sex with another person but the others think it isn't fair that people just basically judge them off of the fact that they lost their virginity before they are normally supposed to. But it's also the fact that teens want to fit in with the crowd but I'm not recommending everyone to do that. I think it is a war between the split of teens thinking it's cool, and teens being in love...

P.S There are some teens who ARE in love. Not just saying it to get with someone... =]

i didnt say thats the reason

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Sat, 2008-11-22 21:07.

i didnt say thats the reason why if thats what it sounded like.  i meant to say is that a/one reason why some do it. thats what i meant.  thenks for ur comment. =]

my reply to others replies xD

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Sat, 2008-11-22 21:05.

i guess i was a unclear about somethings, Especially when i mentioned about us not knowing what love is.  What i ment to say was that we may know what love is but i dont think you need to have sex to love someone. But even though you've been with someone for a long time i dont think you should have sex until there is like a DEFINITE commitment.  It has happened that you've been with someone for like 2 years and then end up breaking up.  I just dont think such young teens should start being active.

Teen sex

Submitted by Odarri on Sat, 2008-11-22 23:14.

Basically for teen to have sex or no well, On a teens mind the only the care about or interest them at all to have fullfilment of themselves, maybe in any way they can get it or achieve that. The  restrances are religion, parents maybe, Stds, and self emotions, and others opinions input in one's life.

 

Teen Sex

Submitted by YotaO on Tue, 2008-11-25 12:45.

I think that another factor in teen sex is reverse psychology.
Teens HATE being told what to do, and will go out of their way to do what their parents have told them not to do.
I personally think that people should stop pestering kids about sex, and give them freedom to do what they feel is right.

From,
Yota O.

AKA The Shining Darkness

i agree with you but....

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Thu, 2008-12-04 10:14.

i agree with what you stated about reverse psychology but if kids are giving the freedom to do what they think is right and parents dont talk to them about it, they're not going to feel comfortable talking to their parents and go to a friend or something.  the friend not knowing themselves can give out wrong information or not good advice. 

Well, hold on

Submitted by YotaO on Thu, 2008-12-11 12:40.

I never suggested that we stop being strict NOW.
I think that we should be gradual with it, and if teen sex actually goes up, then we'll stop.
Is that acceptable?

Yota O
AKA The Shining Darkness

I agree with The Shining

Submitted by KGarcia on Wed, 2009-06-24 11:32.

I agree with The Shining Darkness ^_^

 

i dont understand what you said....

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Thu, 2008-12-04 10:17.

I understand the things you mentioned that may prevent a teenager from having sex, and i think all of those reasons are more than enough not to have it.   i dont understand these sentences you wrote "Basically for teen to have sex or no well, On a teens mind the only the care about or interest them at all to have fullfilment of themselves, maybe in any way they can get it or achieve that."

I 100% agree with you!

Submitted by 12aldanaj on Wed, 2008-12-03 21:11.

 Your post really had me thinking about all these things. I know that doing adult things at this age is wrong because we are still teens and arent old enough to do that yet. I mean most of the people that teens do it with would eventually just leave in the future and wont ever be seen again. We are being taught about this subject and yet it seems that more people are doing it even though lessons are being made to show teenagers that doing it at an early age is wrong. Many people just do it cuz they want to fit in or cuz they want to know how its like but its dumb because that is like almost the main reason why a lot of teenage girls end up pregnat or why a lot of teenage boys end up having to take care of the person they did it with even though they can barely take care of themselves. People really shouldnt be doing stuff like that unless they really know what they are doing and the consequences. Even then they shouldnt do it, people should wait until they are older. Instead teenagers are being foolish and thats why like in EyeWitness News there are a lot of cases of teen pregnacy and stuff like that. And about the next generation, well if this they way it keeps going we are going to have kids younger than 9 involved in things like these! The next generation doesnt seem so bright anymore. 

I think that people

Submitted by 12callegarit on Thu, 2008-12-04 09:06.

are just very stubborn and think that they know what they are doing because they are educated about it. Usually when someone wants to do something, they do it reguardless of what people say. Especially if they claim they are "in love". They will do anything to keep things going the way they are even if that means that they have to do something they know is wrong. Teens know the dangers of being sexual active, but refuse to believe how serious they are.

i agree with you

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Thu, 2008-12-04 10:20.

and the fact that teens would do anything just to keep things the way they are.  also teens these days we go through a stage where we rebel and refuse to listen to anyone. 

yeah I know what you mean,

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Thu, 2008-12-04 20:35.

teens shouldn't be pressured to do anything that they know is wrong.  Trying to impress a crowd or fit in, what do we get from that? if you think about it nothing really.  Like this qoute says "Stand up for what you believe, even if it means you're standing alone"

I Agree With Youu!

Submitted by 12bacianm on Thu, 2008-12-04 10:14.

Carmen I felt that this post was very interesting. + educatingg. Teens and even kids don't understand the consequences of their actions, or they don't accept the fact when true reality takes place. I like how you applied your own findings and experiences with this topic, to the facts. great job! (: I agreed with all your reasons, havving sex could have many reasons such as pressure, or having to "fit in." the numbers are increasing by the year. + i also feel that part of this very shocking news is dealed with responsibility to the parents. Parents give their kids too much freedom. Half the time kids aren't home. The youth today is getting very complicated. And not just sex, but drinking and smoking, etc. The point is, kids need to be aware of their actions. And learn to understand the consequences. And that is that.

yeah like i think

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Thu, 2008-12-04 20:40.

i mentioned before that there is only so much a parent can do at the end its up to us whether we decide to do something or not.  And yeah you're right, numbers keep on increasing each year.  Before we do something we should always take into account the possible consequences.

disagree on a lot of stuff!!!! some u are right.....

Submitted by Dtoalongo on Thu, 2008-12-04 10:15.

Dear Carmen,

I don't agree in everything you said in this discussion. I belive that the way you made it seems was that sex was horrible. I do agree that at a young age like 11 yrs old is way too young to be sexually active. But thats not even a teenager so when you refer to a teenager I think it should be like at age 15 and up. Well in my opinion sex is not only having sexual intercourse, its also a way to should a feeling and express passion and affection towards the person they love. Some people do it because they are in love and thats call making love. Sex is not a bad thing, its something your body wants. To me it seems you are scared of sex but just becuase of that it doesn't mean that teenagers are rushing into sex. Also what you said about parents and freedom I think that really thats not to blame anyone. To have sex you decide it on your own, it's no one's fault.  Sex has no age for teenagers, its not an adult thing, its something everyone does. Its normal, I don't understand why people freak out when they hear that a girl of 15yrs old had sex. I believe that being educated helps us to protect ourselves and be smart when we are ready to do it and use protection. Well I respect your thoughts but sex is just sex, no big deal, anyone can be sexually active at 15yrs or up....................

 

dear Dtoalongo,

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Thu, 2008-12-04 20:53.

i didn't mean to make sex sound like its a horrible thing and i agree when you said "its also a way to should a feeling and express passion and affection towards the person they love. Some people do it because they are in love and thats call making love. Sex is not a bad thing, its something your body wants."  I still don't agree with the fact that it could be done at any age because when you're too young you dont know what you're doing.  A teen might think they're in love with someone and they make love, but how many people do we "love" when we're teenagers? And for you teens is from 15-up, even though 11 yr olds are not "teens" they're wayyy to young to be doing anything of that matter.  Also it's not that i'm scared of sex because even my mother told me its a good thing, i know its a good thing, but its something special that should be done with someone you know cares for you and loves you, and for me thats until i get married.  It depends how you view things, but being active at such a young age is very risky, leave pregnancy aside i'm talking about STD's because a child is always a blessing but STD's can really harm you.  You may not even know your partner has one or even they might not know it either.  

thanks for your reply and take care <3

Children have sex not thinking about what they are doing.

Submitted by 12avilas on Thu, 2008-12-04 10:16.
Dear Carmen,
 
 
Children like us dont really think what is right and what is wrong. Many kids just do things with out thinking about their actions and its not supricing that they do things like that. For example, drugs people mostly take drugs because they are stressed and they think its a way to relax. others do it because they think its cool and its not because they are messing up thier lifes for no reason. same with this topic if they do this early they messed their life up because there was no reason to do such thing. Their normal reason is because of "love" thats not true there is no reason to start such thing early.

 

true

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Thu, 2008-12-04 20:37.

like one commenter responded with that there are many sources that can get teens curious and some sources arent very well controlled by parents.  things on the internet for example he mentioned.  There are many things that contribute to this, but like they say "curiosity killed the cat"

Being Sexually Active

Submitted by CuiXiaC on Thu, 2008-12-11 13:15.

Hi, I've just read your post about how some teenagers are being sexually active too soon and I totally agree with you. Although I don't think it's necessarily the parent's fault. I think it's really how children are influenced with the surrounding they grew up in and their environment. I mean of course it's also the parent's responsibility to raise their kids well and all, but the environment is where kids are most infleuenced by. In addition, some kids mature at different age levels and some 11 year olds can think like a 14year old. Although I agree with you how it's okay to say NO to sex because sometimes it's just peer pressure that gets us into those positions.

 

Good job! Keep up the good work.

thank you for your comment....

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Fri, 2008-12-12 09:47.

what i meant to say when i mentioned how it can also be parents fault was that parents should give their children the confidence to go up to them and ask any questions they have.  parents shouldnt say sex is wrong because its not but they should tell them that its something that shouldnt be done at such a young age.  \

thank you for your reply x]

take care x3

My Opinion.

Submitted by 12calinn on Fri, 2009-01-09 08:55.

Honestly, I don't agree with you. I think that people have the right to do whatever they want to, regardless of what everyone thinks. Sex is a huge issue these days, and I'm not really sure why. I mean it's a natural part of life. Some people chose to wait because of their personal opinions, but other people feel it's the right thing to do. Being aware of the consequences makes some people cautious, and others don't really care. They wouldn't really care if they had the education or not. Sometime you just have to live in the moment. And sex is something like. Saying that doesn't mean you should ignore the responsiblities that involve sex, but I feel that people shouldn't look down on those who chose to have sex. To me you're article feels like you are saying that people who do lose thier virginity at a very young age are doing something wrong. Sex isn't something you put an age on. I don't care if people have their opossing beliefs, but you were not in that person's shoes when it happened to them. Don't judge people, because you are not them.  Making them feel lesser than what they are because they have chosen to have sex at whatever age is not something that should be done in our society.

Also you say that you want to wait for marrige, you are still being expossed the STDs and unwanted pregnancy. You still have to deal with the responsibilities of sex. I get that you will be older and with a person you "love" but I don't see the big difference. I mean you could love someone you are going out with just as much, have sex, break up. This happens with marrige too! You get married to someone you love, have sex, get divorced.

i dont think that this

Submitted by 12arces on Wed, 2009-01-14 21:23.

i dont think that this person's  intension was to make others feel inferior or "lesser."  Correct me if i'm wrong but i think this person was trying toexplain that there is now more things being exposed to young children. i agree with that--shows that are most available are now more provacative and although it may not be intended by producers, it sometimes gives the wrong image. (oh btw when i mean more "available" i mean like local channels rather than cable or channels people pay for) Not only TV but the internet (something that wasnt available 10 years ago) is also easily accessed by children. the list goes on and on.

about the whole parents issue talked about in this blog:

i think you're right that parents can sometimes try to be their children's "friend" rather than their "parent." they want to keep a good relationship with them. but being a "friend" can sometimes give a child too much freedom that they may not be able to handle in the right way. Now strict parents are just as bad. Because they're strict, their teen kids will only want to rebel especially since their friends might be doing something they cant. a good parent should be both a friend and strict. the real key to a good relationship with your child is confidence- children should be comfortable to talk with their parents about things that are going on without all the critism.

last thing, teens and kids that are deciding to have sex, you better know all the consequences and saftey that come with and are needed when being sexually active.

i get what you're saying and

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Fri, 2009-03-06 18:48.

i get what you're saying and thank you for replying =)

 

it is natural and im not saying its a sin but once you have sex you're going to want to keep on having and at such a young age that's not such a smart idea, you let go of your childhood.  Exposing yourself at such a young age to mnay diseases? Why? Why risk getting pregnant ? no birth controls or condoms are 100% safe so why take the risk at such a young age? like they say "dont try to run when you're learning to walk"

and the thing about society and that society shouldnt look down on those who have had sex is something that will always be around and wont go away. People talk and talk and thats just the way life is.  But notice that society really only talks about women or girls and not guys. 

and in marriage atleast there is some sort of commitment. When you're married and lose your virginity they wont leave you if anything happened.  At a young age what boy wants to be a father? What guarantees that you GF or BF wont leave you after?

 

thenk you for responding again! tc x3

well only reason the teen's

Submitted by jlin on Wed, 2009-01-14 23:26.

well only reason the teen's r sexually active is because the guys and girls are producing the hormones >_> can't blame the guy and the girl o.0 to me it doesn't matter if u do have sex because it's their problem not ur's

i'm not saying it affects me

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Fri, 2009-03-06 18:56.

i'm not saying it affects me what others do with their lives but im just curious to know why they do it.

I agree with you post, "Why

Submitted by smohiuddin on Wed, 2009-02-11 09:53.

I agree with you post, "Why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more than those in the past ?," because I think its crazy for 11 years to have sex.

One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: " I feel I can blame parents for this.  They are not really on top of their children like they should be." I think even if parents were telling their kid that sex at a young age is bad they will still do it if they want to. But parents should give them space and also tell them what good and not good for them. However sometimes when parents are on top of their children it does not help and just make things worse.  

Another sentence that I liked was "Sometimes they are giving them too much freedom and their children are taking advantage of it" This stood out for me because I totally agree with you on this. When parents don't care at all then kids can do whatever they want to do. I think parents that give their kids too much freedom its not a good idea at all. 

I do agree with you this "At a really young age i doubt we  know what love is, We're still  kids." One reason I say this is because everyone in love now a days. It looks to me that people are in love the next day they start going out or something. I think that really sad. I don't think that the phrase "I Love You" has no meaning to it now.

I like your post. It was interesting. Good Job. 

thank you for your comment!

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Fri, 2009-03-06 18:59.

thank you for your comment! :D

 

i do agree with that if parents are really over protective with their kids they will do things behind their back. But what i meant is that they should be aware of what their kids are doing and not let the love they have for them blind them.  If a parent gives trust to a child and talks to them then thats really good, at the end its the childs fault. 

TEENS

Submitted by pdass on Wed, 2009-02-11 11:25.

     DEAR  12MALDONADOC

 

    I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU OF WHAT YOU SAID ABOUT TEEN PREGNANCY  BECAUSE IT IS TRUE THAT TEENAGERS ARE STARTING TO  TAKE DESIONS WHICH THEY SHOULD THINK OF FIRST,BUT WE SHOULDNT BLAME THEM  FOR IT EAITHER BECAUSE IF THEY DO TAKE THE DESION OF HAVING SEX THEN THEY MIGHT BE DOING TO THE PERSON THAT THEY LOVE NOT LIKE PICK SOME STARNGER FROM THE STREETS AND SAY IM GOING TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU NO BECAUSE NOW SINCE WE ARE GETTING BIGGER WE ARE ALSO GETTING MUCH MATURE.THIS FOR THE HALFOF THE TEENS THE OTHER HALF THERE HORMONES ARE GOING WILD WE TEENS DONT TO TAKE THIS DESION ITSOUR BODY THAT CRAVES FOR IT  AND TO  BELEIVE OR NOT THE THERE IS NO SOLUTION FOR THE WORD SEX .

 

 

                                                                                                                                                            SINCERLY PDASS

thenks for your

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Fri, 2009-03-06 19:02.

thenks for your response.

 

if a teen does decide to have relationships then no one can change that.  But the teen should protect themselves and atleasr have sex with the one they claim they love. Sex is no game and should be taken seriously.  Sex was suppose to be making love but mnay just have it because they want pleasure

Deysi, Reading your post

Submitted by GSoukup on Thu, 2009-02-12 20:22.

Deysi, Reading your post really got me to think about things in our world. Kids are exposed to what their parents let them.

A sentence that really stood out to me was :"i also blame the internet because teens can have access to porn sites or chat rooms[cyber sex ,curiosity can lead to having sex]"  I, personally don't watch porn. But I know people that do, and they think it is normal. And to me, it is. Because of the internet, its is eiser to obtain pornography, but you can still get it in other places. But I dont blame the internet fro that. There are programs that can block those kinds of sites. And if parents want their kids not to see it, they should use those new technologies.

Another line that stood out to me was " but we shouldnt do it until we are at a certain age or until we are married." You yourself said that it is an expression of love and the passion you feel for someone. I agree wtih that statement but not this one. Age dosn't matter, but your emotions do. IF 2 peopel are in love and they feel ready, go for it. BUt if they are young they should wait untill they are more mature. But some people wait for a long time untill they find that special person.

This reminds me of some disscusions I have had. People say, "OH I just had sex with some girl" and thats good for them. I have no problem sayign that i didnt. I have too much self respect and respect women in their choice to do what they must.

Alot of people commented on this and I congradulate you...34 comments 522 reads. Good job

 

thenk for responding but by

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Fri, 2009-03-06 19:06.

thenk for responding but by the way my name's not deysi. lol.

 

this was a pretty old blog post which i plan on editing sooner or later.  i said teens should do it until they're married because thats what ive grown up with and to me it makes sense. in marriage there is commitment and if anything i know my husband will stick by me.

 

thenk you again! tcx3

I really agree with you and

Submitted by 12parkj on Wed, 2009-02-25 18:00.

I really agree with you and I understand that you're angry about teens being sexually active more and more lately.
It really has to do with freedom and access to whatever they need/have.
Teens nowadays are different from what they used to be in the old days, especially being sexually active.
It really depends on the teenager though, right? But very interesting topic. Very Interesting.

yeah not all teens are

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Fri, 2009-03-06 19:08.

yeah not all teens are having sex but a lot do.  it depends on tehir view points and what they want.  im not surpirsed when they say a 14 year old is pregnant.

 

thank you for replying! =]

This is a serious topic

Submitted by 12sthillk on Wed, 2009-02-25 19:59.

This is a serious topic because kids these days are under peer preasure and they get a sudden urge or need to have sex at a young age. They may think it is a cool thing to say that their are not a "version" but  when they become older children may become so addicted to sex, it can be a problem where sex is a daily routine. Even though kids may learn about sex ed. it doesn't mean that they will always listen. Children will be rebelious so that they would satisfy their needs of sexual intercource. It is danger when little children have sex because they are at risk of getting STD, and because of that decision it can mess of children's future. Also, children aren't ready to become parents yet since they are not at a age level where they are not mature enough!

thank you for replying! at

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Fri, 2009-03-06 19:10.

thank you for replying! at such a young age kids dont need to become addicted to sex.  did you know their such disease? a person could be in need of having sex ALOT.

 

ty for respinding tcx3

Well as I read all this, I

Submitted by AdrianM on Mon, 2009-03-09 09:56.

Well as I read all this, I started to connect this to my personal life. I know a lot of people who are currently active but at the same time, they tell me they choose to get involved in this. Yeah, I'll admit they say "I love him or her" but we are at a state where adolescence or testosterone takes over. Our hormones are raging at such a young age. I haven't met an 11 year old who actually was sexually active but it may occur like you said "Because of peer pressure". Some kids are basically trying to grow up and before you know it. they are having sex. With all the sexual transmitted diseases out there, children are vulnerable to basically anything. Parents should honestly talk with their children, and build that trust. I have complete trust in my mom and dad and I know they will support me whenever. Parents are technically the ones to blame by giving them so much freedom but it's also the child's fault for not thinking before acting.

actually, its all on how you

Submitted by khassan on Mon, 2009-03-09 17:37.

actually, its all on how you view life. if your like me, you'd sure as hell wait for that special someone (which i did...i think, not sure how long it will last), and even so, you'd wait until your at LEAST 18. if anyone was to ask me if i want to have sex, my answer is always gonna be the same for now:"not until i can support a family." I'm not saying i want to have a child when i first have sex, but just in case of anything, i want to know i can have a family and be financially stable.

on the flip side, you could be one of the many who think it's normal to have sex at 11 or 12, that's their prerogative. the studies are accurate to what i think, how the average age for teens to have sex and the average age teens HAVE sex is 16. just for the record, though i think that, i still think teens should wait until adulthood. if your that sexually active, which i know you can't be, then go ahead. Just don't go running to me when something goes horribly wrong or the guy/girl is a complete jerk.

Your blog caught my

Submitted by AnnaC on Mon, 2009-03-16 09:33.

Your blog caught my attention because I think it's actually quite true. Teenagers are now having sex easier at a much younger age. I think they're personally doing something dumb, but because their parents don't follow up on them as much as they should. These teens are simply lost, and don't know whether they're ready or not, or simply because they need someone to love them, and their parents don't play that role.

i've heard if that which is

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Fri, 2009-04-03 09:07.

i've heard if that which is why i think that parents should try being close to their children like friends. =]

As i read your blog, i

Submitted by BridgetM on Mon, 2009-03-16 09:35.

As i read your blog, i realized how true it is, and how in a way i can relate to this. In middle school, many kids get pressured into having sex, many do it because, all their friends are doing, and they don't want to left out or an outcast.

yeah i know thats how it was

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Fri, 2009-04-03 09:09.

yeah i know thats how it was in my middle school too.  but its good to be different then everyone else dont you think?

yes definetly true something

Submitted by rvlas on Thu, 2009-03-19 09:00.

yes definetly true something must be done about it if kids are starting to have sex at younger and younger ages i wonder at what age will they start having sex in the next 100 years at age 7? Serious measures have to be taken..

It is very true that people

Submitted by NoahS on Thu, 2009-03-19 11:45.

It is very true that people become sexually active at such a young age and that it is a real issue. You question why it happens when people are unaware of a lot of the information when it comes to sexual issues and other subjects in that general vicinity. I think that people being uneducated is the very reason that people become sexually active at younger ages because they are curious to about things that they don't know about and the only way to learn about something when others won't teach you is to try it for yourself. The solution is better sex education in schools starting at younger ages to help prevent any unnecessary occurrences from happening due to unprotected sex at a younger age.

thanks for your comment. and

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Thu, 2009-03-26 09:00.

thanks for your comment. and yes schools and parents should start teaching their kids about sex to prevent them from making irresponisble decisions.

i think that the topic of

Submitted by JordanaF on Thu, 2009-03-19 11:59.

i think that the topic of teen sex is really complicated. on the one hand i feel that we only think that teens have sex at such young ages because these teens are our friends and they tell us these things. when i was eight i didnt know what an 11 year old was doing and who they were doing it with. if you ask your parents, siblings, cousins, ect. you will probably find that they had sex at a fairly young age. not everyone, but some have. i think it is more the fact that teens are being irresponsible and not using condoms, and because if that they end up spreading disease and having babies. it all depends on your point of view on the subject. im waiting for the right person to come along and the right age, some people dont care at all, and some people are waiting until after marriage. its just what you think. i think it was very brave of you to put this up because this topic is view in so many different ways. your ideas were interesting

thank you for your reply. 

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Thu, 2009-03-26 08:57.

thank you for your reply.  some Teens and even some grown ups also are very irresponsible and dont think of the consequences, which as you said contributes the number of people with diseases and pregnancy.

I just read your post and to

Submitted by tthomas on Wed, 2009-03-25 19:19.

I just read your post and to answer your question, in my opinion anyway..I think teenagers are having sex even though were being educated unlike the past is because of society. I think society plays a big role in teenage lives. Music can effect us alot to. For example, rap and rock promote things that our parents dont want us to do. But we dont listen to our parents, we listen to the "Cool" people so we do what they think is right which is bascially being a follower. And if your friends are having sex, your most likely going to have sex. Which leds to pure pressure and once you do it, you get addicted and you cant stop.

thank you for repplying to

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Thu, 2009-03-26 08:52.

thank you for repplying to my blog post and i agree with your comment.  Society does play a big role and also it plays a big role in talking about you if you had sex.  Every teen has their own reason to have sex, and i think what you said is one of the most common reasons. thank you for replying! take care

The bigger question we might

Submitted by mbrownstone on Thu, 2009-03-26 05:35.

The bigger question we might ask is: To what extent can education change student behavior? Students are taught about how to change their behavior around nutrition, exercise, plagiarism, and how to avoid HIV. I'm curious to learn from students how influential have teachers been in changing your behavior! As a teacher, we can only hope. As a student, you can let us know.

Madeline Brownstone BSGE Teacher

i think it depends on the

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Fri, 2009-04-03 09:17.

i think it depends on the student.  If the student is someone who didnt know about it, it makes them think about how to better protect oneself or to practice abstinence which is something that teachers mention a lot.  thank you for replying!!!

They should have less

Submitted by rvlas on Sat, 2009-04-18 09:37.

They should have less freedom as you said maybe then they wont really be able to do it animore

I completely agree. I feel

Submitted by bzhu on Sun, 2009-04-19 13:19.

I completely agree. I feel that people should grow up gradually rather than super fast. Childhood is fun, and there's no reason to cut it off. It's nice to be friendly and flirty with a boy, but being sexually active is too much.

I didn't know that people as young as 11 start having sex. That's absurd.

I agree with you when you say that people should choose not to have sex. Being innocent keeps you sane. I believe that people that people should start doing this in college. That's where you are mature, and have better judgment and reasoning.

I'm a freshman in high school, and I'm being catious about this matter, even though some of my friends are ahead of me. I am not jealous of them.

I want to know more of what you write. I like to see people that agree with my ideas.

I'm also a freshmen  and i

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Thu, 2009-04-30 09:18.

I'm also a freshmen  and i also have a lot of friends that are WAY ahead of me, and just like you, I'm not jealous of them.  I also agree that the older you are the better aware you are of your actions and possible consequences.  Thank you for replying =]

I found this to be

Submitted by kbaik on Tue, 2009-04-21 12:19.

I found this to be interesting.. Unfortunately i did not have the time to read everyone's post so i may be repeating what someone else has said. I think that up to some point you are correct. People should not be having sex if they don't know what they are getting into. But i don't exactly agree with restrictions. Restrictions will work, but only up to a certain point. I live in the crowded city and it is near to impossible to censor everything from your child. Rather then Trying to teach them about sex, I think that making teens Curious and Interested in learning for themselves. It may sound like the same thing, but you should know that teens are in fact very emotional, and rebellious. It is very important to word yourself correctly when you talk about such sensitive matters.

im a teen and i know this is

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Thu, 2009-04-30 09:21.

im a teen and i know this is the stage in life where we feel nothing can stop us, and we are rebellious and also very emotional.  this blog was written months ago so i might revise what i said so that it does not seem like im putting all the blame on the teen for having sex, and things like that.

 

thank you for replying =]

I would like to say that

Submitted by DCha on Mon, 2009-05-11 12:19.

I would like to say that unless that the two people are mature enough to handle all of the emotional crap that comes with it and all of the STD problems then let them have sex and screw up their lives then, life is precious so dont screw it up and regret it in the end because your the one that chose to do this( saying it all to the people that plan on having sex ). People also need to know that naivety will get you no where and may be enough to be a big impact on life.

i agree with you , but this

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Wed, 2009-09-16 11:49.

i agree with you , but this was just something i was thinking about, i just brought out the topic.  thanks for your reply

I am agree with your all

Submitted by maryamkhan on Fri, 2009-05-22 18:24.

I am agree with your all taughts your thinking is pity clear You said that this is a fault of parent I think too bcoz now parents don't have a time that they talked about this to their teens and most of teens get priority of this and get involve in this not only this is bad its also they don't know that how it will affect them in their coming life they think that it is a fun but they don't know the other results I know that every teen has feeling of this but it doesn't mean that you get involve in this in your playing age with toys not THIS....

Mixed Emotions, I know where

Submitted by troya on Mon, 2009-08-24 05:22.

Mixed Emotions, I know where you're coming from. The concept of kids having kids is serious and widespread, but in the general sense, you can't blame anyone in this situation other than the teens engaging in sex and teen pregnancy! We are all our own person and capable of making our own decisions especially as teens. Media may INFLUENCE, but it doesn't make that choice or that baby, baby! So I agree to disagree

I disagree, it is the teens

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Wed, 2009-09-16 11:47.

I disagree, it is the teens fault if they get pregnant.  They chose to have sex its not like the baby popped out of no where.  But thanks for posting a comment =]

I think that if people want

Submitted by rcaravati on Thu, 2009-09-03 10:36.

I think that if people want to be sexually active at a young age they should be able to do so as long as they are aware of the consequences of their actions.

Well i had originally

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Wed, 2010-09-22 15:43.

Well i had originally written this response when i was in the 9th grade, currently im in 11th grade.  As these past 2 years have gone by and i have become more aware of the reasons why teens have sex, its understandable.  I think it all depends on the way we were raised, and ofcourse personal choice.  But i do think that if students decide to be active that they should be aware of the consequences AND definitely protect themselves.

 

ty for your response

  This topic may make young

Submitted by ValerieD on Sat, 2009-10-03 17:54.

 

This topic may make young teenagers uncomtorable to talk with parents. Including me. When I asked my mom bout it, She explained some easy stuff to understand. When i got older, she explained more of it. Im thinking that young adults are having sex beacause they think by having it with their partner, that they will love each other. Some get influenced by tv or internet. And sadly some are presured. But its true, teenagers are doing it these days and they act as if it isnt wrong. NEWS FLASH!!! Its not bad, ITS EXTREMLY NOT FOR YOUR AGE!!! My mom always tells me that everything has its time. For example, eyeliner. i asked her, and she said when im older. she is right. because i tried it on and i looked like a 30 year old. Sex has its time. Live your life while you have it. dont waste your time thinking if you should do it with him or her. You waste your energy on that. Its good that schools are teaching the consequences about sex. Im learning not to do it until you think you and your partner are responsible enough to have sex. Learn from the experts, guys. think before you do it.

Valerie

 

haha thanks for your honest

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Wed, 2010-09-22 15:46.

haha thanks for your honest reply =] <3

and well i was 14 when i wrote this, now im almost turning 17 =x so yep, ive been more aware about reasons why teens have sex, but i still stand by no premarital sex but for MYSELF.  if others want to go ahead and do it, then by all means go ahead, its your body anyway.  What i would love though is that teens do it with someone they know they can trust, and usually people dont show the real side of themselves until they finally get what they want.  Also protections i number one.  You should see how many teenage girls with big bellies i have seen! its sad.

 

ty again and take care =]

and youre right, live each stage of your life!

Thank you for bringing up

Submitted by atorres on Sat, 2009-10-03 18:38.

Thank you for bringing up this topic. This also frustrates and annoys me! Why can't kids wait? I also kind of have to agree with you that it is the parents' fault especially, but when children are having sex at the age of 11, there is no room for the parents to have a talk. Therefore, it is mostly television's fault. There's all sorts of sexual advertisements and storylines being aired.

It also bothers me whenever ten year old girls go out wearing clothes that tight and show lots of skin. I feel as if though they should be more conservative and keep their innocence.

Like you, I am also worried about future generations.

i have seen that too.

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Wed, 2010-09-22 15:49.

i have seen that too. Especially when i go back to visit teachers from my middle school i see 5th graders dressing in an attempt to look older. im just like O.O.  They dont look nice or sexy or w.e they want to look, they look ridiculous.  I think that parents should start talking to their children about their views and what they would like for their child to do at a very early age.  By doing this, children gain confidence in their parents and would go to them if they ever have any questions and without any worries

Dear carmon i think your

Submitted by YCheng2 on Tue, 2009-10-06 08:18.

Dear carmon

i think your post was pretty cool and i tottally agree with you at times because i been thought situations where i was like curious and when parents tell me not to do this and than i become more likely to do it or find a way to do it so i think that that's true and love yes indeed sometimes i jsut hook up with girls jsut because of the sex not even about love. but when you do get in love you get happy even thought you are not haveing sex so its a diffenet feelings.

well your sentence came up to me how the kids dont knwo what love is and i agree with yuou even more when you said that and is crazyly outrages that they start haveing sex at the age of 11 that's jsut off the hook. because i mean 11 there is alot of things that they dont know yet and sex at 11 that's basaclly worng. i mean to me the age is at least 15 i mean seriously that's crazy.

well not being in love and haveing sex jsut because we are curious are also very true because i did it also i jsut hooked up with a girl and just curious i didt liek do it do it but i alsmot got there and i jsut stoped there since i didt want to poke her so soon. and i didt like her so yes indeed i think its true and i agree with you. jsut because im curious.

well thank you for writing i look foorward to seeing what you write next time because this topic really made me intersected and i think that's awsome that you choose such a topic and support it with so much evendences.i will bring back some boring youith voices post but im looking forward for you to respone back thank you.

Well im very sorry for my

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Wed, 2010-09-22 15:52.

Well im very sorry for my one year late response.  youthvoices was more of a school thing for me.  But now i just came back to visit it just to see what people have responded with.  and thanks for being very honest.  I can also understand its a hormone thing, but it would be great if people had sex when their 100000000% sure about it.

 

i will post a part 2 to this topic!

i think that  it's ok to

Submitted by akrank on Tue, 2009-10-06 08:28.

i think that  it's ok to have sex when you're young, i just think  you should do it for the right reason. yes kids are doing it younger and younger  but i believe that it's ok. i think teens are doing it more now than in the past because now there ablre diffrent ways to protect your self.

oh and no one is to blame but our selves not cyber space, or chaqt room or even porn.

hmm thanks for your comment,

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Wed, 2010-09-22 15:54.

hmm thanks for your comment, but i still stand by my view.  I dont think kids having sex younger and younger is right.  I mean there are so many things you can do at various age stages that why rush and have sex and have something go wrong? im jsut againt that.  But if the person is mature enough and ready then why not?

"What originally helped

Submitted by hkong on Wed, 2009-10-07 06:33.

"What originally helped humanity survive and thrive is now being killed. Humans instinctively, greedy, always look after themselves rather than other people. While this is a stigmatized attribute in current society, every person has some aspect of greed in their daily lives. If someone stumbled upon a dollar bill laying on a crowded street, they will look around, then snatch it for themselves. This is but another cautionary act, if that dollar bill was found in a remote or desolate area, that person would snatch it without second thoughts or doubts. This can be correlated with the natural instinct of finding sustenance for survival in primal times. 

How people behave in society is based on stigmatization of a so called "act". Examples include instincts; picking of the nose, spitting, or flatuations. Some were originally used as a measure of survival, and some, such as flatuation, are part of bodily functions. Its because of the ripple effect that such things are stigmatized. Anything that is done when alone, but not when in public, is an example of stigma. Some things now which are even law prohibited were because of previous stigmatization, such as public nudity.

Natural instincts that helped humans thrive and evolve from granite wielding barbarians to civilized homosapiens are now being suppressed. Blankets that kept you warm through infancy now being used as a rag or tossed away because of antiquity. Humanity is committing matricide, and ironically, is not a stigma in society."

Though a bit off topic the meaning is the same, my opinion is that if their biology wants them to do such an act, let them. In ancient times, as soon as you can produce sperm, you can reproduce. Now, the definition of mature is being changed again and again. Personally, if both members agree, then let them do it, provided it does not hinder others.

 

 

Well thanks for your

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Wed, 2010-09-22 15:57.

Well thanks for your response.  And well like i responded to others i wrote this when i was 14, now im almost turning 17 sp yeah its been a bit of time.  Well certain views have changed, but i still dont believe in pre-marital sex for ME.  if others want to do so then by all means go, its your body, but please atleast protect yourself.

 

again thanks!

I agree with what you you

Submitted by JocelinG on Wed, 2009-10-07 19:19.

I agree with what you you wrote, because teenagers should be thinking of the consiquences when it comes to trying to become an adult.

yeah, but they get caught up

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Wed, 2010-09-22 15:57.

yeah, but they get caught up in the moment and bam!

so please people think not once, not twice but ,many times!

Carmen, This was very good

Submitted by JRamirez on Tue, 2009-10-20 20:21.

Carmen,

This was very good post. I have to agree with you on most parts of your post. Yes it does not seem logical that kids at 11 are having sex. The thought of it is very weird and disturbing. However speaking of teens in high school is a different story. I'm not saying that everyone in high school has to have sex but if it were to happen to a girl or boy its not something to be ashamed about. Thats why the classes are provided. To learn on how to protect yourself and to be safe and smart. When i lost my virginity i didn't do it because I was forced or wanted to look cool to my friends. It was a feeling that came upon me that i felt like doing. Its all science due to hormones building up. The point is, its nothing wrong with it, you just have to be safe. 

Yes it is true if your "inner you" is not feeling right about it. The best is to wait and not do it. never feel forced. Only when you're ready. 

Well i wrote this post when

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Wed, 2010-09-22 16:00.

Well i wrote this post when i was 14 and now im almost turning 17, and some of my views have changed.  For myself, i dont belive in pre-marital sex, but if others want to do it then go ahead.  Its their bodies and they know what to do . What i would like is that teens have sex because they honestly want to and care for the other person, they can trust the other person, and ofcourse do their best in protecting themselves. 

Dear Carmen, I liked your

Submitted by akatz on Tue, 2009-10-20 21:04.

Dear Carmen,

I liked your post " Why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more than those in the past? " because it's so true. You obviously know what your talking about. Your a young woman who knows when to draw the line between things. One sentence that you wrote that stands out to me is " What would become of our next generation? ". I think this is right because what's next? Babies smoking cigerettes? Another sentence that i admired was " Does it make them cooler to say " Oh i had sex? ". This stood out for me because people who say that don't have commen sence and they dont have self control and respect. Your post reminds me of my 6th grade health lesson. Thanks for your writing! I can't wait to see what you write next because this was interesting!

thanks alot! and im sorry

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Wed, 2010-09-22 16:01.

thanks alot! and im sorry for my 1 year late response =[ i havent been on because this was more of school project but not i as curious to see what others wrote.  i will post another one but my views now =]

 

thanks so much and take care!

i totally agree with you. i

Submitted by chong on Wed, 2009-10-21 12:08.

i totally agree with you. i dont get why people are all like omg im so cool i just had sex. or they do it cause they say the love themm and will be with them forever. i mean like we dont kow the future someone you meet when  your in high school doesnt necesseraly mean that you'll be with them forever. one of my friends tellls me that he does it almost every night cause he loves her. next thing i know hes like ahhhh omg she broke up with me. like seriously? i really dont know why we should be taught about this so early. i had no idea how children were made until i was in eighth grade. (im dead serious). also the all the signs around the school last year that were all like free condoms and safe sex i felt were just more encouragement for more teenage sex. they dont care if we do it or not just that we dont end up with stds.

when i tell people that i dont want to know or listen to anything that has to do with it. they tell me that i have to know this because what if some guy comes up and askes me something and i dont know what hes talking about and acciedently say yes what will i do? i say that if no one knows about it until its appropriate teens shouldnt have to worry about it and can focus on other things. if some old guy comes up to me then i just have to remeber what most of us were all taught when were little: stranger danger

haha thanks so much! your

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Wed, 2010-09-22 16:04.

haha thanks so much! your comment was honest and cute =]

well i have to admit that i found out how kids were made when i was in 2nd grade O.o and i was scared.  My dumb older cousin told me and i jsut couldnt look at my parents the same way.  Later on as i got older i understood better, but yes no sex b4 marriage is what i was taught.

 I agree  with you some

Submitted by geraldinea on Wed, 2009-10-21 20:14.

 I agree  with you some kids at and age at 11 already are sexually active and they should put limits to themselves.

 

they should, they should

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Wed, 2010-09-22 16:04.

they should, they should focus on other things, thanks!

I agree your post "Why are

Submitted by Achoi on Sun, 2009-10-25 23:29.

I agree your post "Why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more than those in the past ?" because that i think the kid shouldn't have sex when they still are 11 or 12,cause it is too young for them.

One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: i also blame the internet because teens can have access to porn sites or chat rooms[cyber sex ,curiosity can lead to having sex]" I think this is bad because the kid can see and find the porn easily on the internet.

Another sentence that I agreed was: And they have been giving me lame answers like oh because it feels good or because i Love him , or her.''This stood out for me because i think the kid don't know what is the love meaning is, and they just follow what the people did. 

Your post reminds me of something that happened to me. One time my friend tell me the thing about sex, i just think that it is suck,because if you had sex with a girl,but you aren't going to marry with her, that mean you just hurt a girl with no reason.

Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next.

 

 

Well you cant fully blame

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Tue, 2010-09-28 22:17.

Well you cant fully blame your friend, the girl had been willing to do it as well.  Thanks for your reply.  If teens are going to do it theni hope they do it and wont regret it, and ESPECIALLY will protect themselves.

I agree with you so much.

Submitted by tmonteiro on Thu, 2009-11-05 17:49.

I agree with you so much. This is so true and kids keep denying it. Before kids were ashamed of it and now they are happy about loosing their virginity. It is so ridiculous.

One sentence that stands out is when you said how you asked your friends who did it and they said because they loved him or her. You are right. We are teens we are kids still. We don't know what love is. It might feel good at the time but what would you do if your "lover" gave you something. Is that love?

Another sentence that stood out was when you mentioned about how kids now in days are having sex and they know the risks of it. It is horrible. STD, Klamidia, AIDS, HERPES, etc. Those can be passed on by you being sexually active. It isn't a joke. We all heard about sex yeah it sounds fun. But are you willing to die for it?

I mean I have a lot of friends that are sexually active. I have one friend who has been sexually active with more than 4 guys. She still doesn't have anything but she is out of control. Her parents do give her too much freedom and she does abuse it. I find it sad how she has sex and doesn't care if they wear a condom or not. She might say its love but it isn't at all. If it is love you can wait until your married.

Thanks for writing this and I so agree with you. I mean not even I know what the next generation would be like. I hope that we change this bad habit though.

Your friend is one of those

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Tue, 2010-09-28 22:20.

Your friend is one of those people who thinks that nothing can ever happen to her.  But, god forbid ofcourse, she gets an STD or a baby, she'll truly regret it.  I'm glad that you stand strong by what you belive is right. thanks for your post!

I agree, teenagers are

Submitted by 14IlianJ on Sun, 2009-11-08 13:03.

I agree, teenagers are having sex far to young. I however do not feel that it is the parents fault as much. In my opuion it is media, and peer preasure that has brought this dramatic increase in underaged sex. I meen, look at all the TV shows out there that depict sex as "hot" and "fun." I think that becuse of that more kids are thinking that it is okay to have sex. Also I know that many people have been preasured into having sex. They have been forced by friends, and boy friends, and girl friends into doing something that they are not all together ready for. There for, that leads to a chain of underaged sex, that keeps getting younger and younger.

12maldonadoc, I completely

Submitted by michaelhanover on Sun, 2009-11-08 14:54.

12maldonadoc,

I completely agree with what you are saying.  I believe that kids have become sexually active at a very young age and the general trend is sliding out of control.  As a high school student, I believe the cause for this is our constant bombardment with sex in television, magazines, movies, books, and on the internet. This, combined with peer pressure, is what's causing the earlier and increased sexual activitiy.  When we are always confronted with images of women in lingerie, birth control ads, male enhancement ads, sex scenes on the television, and pornography on the internet, we are desensitized to sex.  We see it as a casual occurence, and something that everyone that's beautiful on television does regulary with whoever they please.  These people on tv are people we look up to as youth in America.  It is only natural that we would want to do what they do, especially since we are only animals, and-lets face it- animals are drawn to sex. 

I think you're completely right, "some though are pressured into having sex."  Once certain people in a community start experimenting with a controversial activity, it is not long before everyone wants to try it.  And the people, especially in our schools, that seem to do it first are the ones who have the most confident, attractive appearances and attitudes.  This creates a sense of envy in the others and from there its history; everyone wants to do it.  This is exactly what's happening today.

Parents and a changed self-image in students can help to change this.  If parents would make it less a taboo and restricted topic for their children, then there wouldn't be such mystery to it and there would be less of a draw to it.  Also, at some point, if this is to change, kids have to strive for a cleaner image.  When will clean be cool? We won't know it until it happens.

Michael

Your discussion is down

Submitted by ljames on Tue, 2009-11-10 20:43.

Your discussion is down right true. Teenagers now and days are moving way too fast for anyone to catch up. PArents cant catch up or even counselors. Its like were in a world of our own and what we feel and say matters more than anyone elses opinion. I feel if a bunch of teens were to stand together and fight this and try to teach children the absolute truth about enduring in sexual activites, it would put a dent in their minds. They would think on things more rather than reacting.

The part where you said "I feel i can blame parents for this.  They are not really on top of their children like they should be.   Sometimes they are giving them too much freedom and their children are taking advantage of it" is so true. PArents can be to blame. However, then again tv shows and movies and peer pressure can also be to blame. We cant blame every trouble kids parents for bringing them up that way. We have no idea realy what goes on behind closed doors. MAybe the parents are trying to sit there and instill values but the child/teen just wont listen. The children want to do things on impulse disregarding anything previously learned, watched or mentioned.

I bet if you sat a sexually active teenager in front of a std documentary and it shows the worst of the worst std's, two days later the child would be like "ahh who cares, thats what condoms are for". It happens all the time.  

 I UNDERSTAND WAT U ARE

Submitted by racheled on Tue, 2009-11-17 13:04.

 I UNDERSTAND WAT U ARE TALKING TEENS THESE DAYS SMFH , NO MATTER HOW MUCH TEENS ARE BEING EDUCATED THEY STILL ARE STUPID AND MAKE STUPID CHOICES THEY ARE NOT THINKIN BOUT THE CONSEQUENCES OF THIER ACTION THEY ARE LIVIN FOR TODAY AND NOT TOMORROW  SATISFACTIONS , LISTEN TO THIS SAYING: YESTERDAY IS HISTORY, TOMORROW IS A MYSTERY, AND TODAY IS A GIFT THAT IS WAY IT IS CALLED THE  PRESENT.........TEENS NEED TO TO RESPECT THAT ITS SAD.....

I agree with you so much! My

Submitted by NicoleD on Mon, 2009-12-07 16:54.

I agree with you so much! My mom actually wanted to request about sex education. I think it should be taught so that childern like us know what they are doing and what they are getting themselves into. The concequences are not just becoming parents, and getting HIV but there are many other diseases that you can catch if you have sex. Those diseases are deadly and I wish that students and kids would understand that. But what I disagree is when you said that parents have to do something with this. I feel that the more the parents are protective the more childern act out because they want freedom and they will do anything to get that even stupid things like having sex. So no parents do not have a say in all teenagers. I hope that reading my comment and many other comments that childern will think twice before having sex. Even though we are not your parents and we can not control your actions you should think 2 times before doing anything and you may ''love'' someone but having sex does not prove that you ''love'' him or her.

Nicole D.

Dear CarmenI enjoy reading

Submitted by dzhapa on Thu, 2009-12-17 09:33.

Dear Carmen

I enjoy reading your post! Because it's very interesting and self explandatory. I feel that this gives o alot of information about sexually active of students. Now this days students are just so interested on sex. Which I find that very normal. What I don't find normal is them doing it in a early age.

 

One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is:  " They are not really on top of their children like they should be.   Sometimes they are giving them too much freedom and their children are taking advantage of it.  they should also give their children the confidence to go up to them with any questions they have and not tell them that sex is wrong because its not, just doing it at a young age is." Parenst are the ones who are stupid. They are the ones that are suppose to tell them about sex. Not let them discover by themselves.

Another sentence that I liked was:" Ifyou're doubting DONT DO IT!!!!!!! THATS YOUR CONSCIENCE TELLING YOU NOT TO DO IT!!!!! Some may think that what im saying is stupid, and thats fine with me.  I cant control your actions.  But those who i have made them do some thinking im glad! If this is how our youth is TODAY, what would become of our next generation." I agree with you, on other words if they do it then take the conscuences.

 

Thanks for writing. Your post was very interesting.

 

 

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Just like you said, yes,

Submitted by aman on Thu, 2009-12-17 09:57.

Just like you said, yes, kids do believe "having sex" is a cool thing to do. It's just the way society is nowadays. Back then, kids weren't exposed to as much sexual contents then they are now today. Nowadays, everywhere kids go, they see explicit things. Even on television. For example, I don't know if you guys have noticed, but even the well known kids cartoon Spongebob contains sexual jokes. And since internet is so popular now, kids are on the computer everyday; the easiest way to access porn sites and explicit photos. Back then, kids worried more about family and education. That was because they weren't as fortunate as we are. They really didn't have time to think about dating or stuff like that. I just hope that they will learn to make smarter decisions and realize sooner that the future is in their hands. They should think more about the people around them than to only think about themselves. I understand that they are still immature and it will take time and experience for them to grow. I blame the media for this.

Dear Carmen: I agree with

Submitted by byan on Tue, 2010-01-05 12:37.

Dear Carmen:

I agree with your post "Why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more than those in the past ?" because i think kids should not have sex when they are young. I can't even imagine a 11 y/o kid is having sex.

One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is:" Does it make them cooler to say "Oh i had sex.""ni think this is what i'm thinking about, because what's cool about having sex? everyone will have sex one day and even you had sex when you are little,it doesnt mean anything.

Another sentence that i like was:"Some may think that what im saying is stupid, and thats fine with me.  I cant control your actions. " sometime i said something ppl wont listen, i dont care. because you are not me. i know what i am doing, and i wont do something that is bad to myself.

Your post are very great,i would like to keep on looking about it.

 

I know what you are trying

Submitted by kaylat78 on Thu, 2010-02-18 19:12.

I know what you are trying to put across!!! the fact of people saying that they had sex and things like that acually makes them less popular. and they writer of this blog said, thats my oppinion, do what you want to do.

i wuz here <3

i feel as though teens at

Submitted by wosharell on Fri, 2010-02-19 12:10.

i feel as though teens at the age of 11 years old should not be sexually active they should be doing other things then worrying about sex.

kids want lust not love dude

Submitted by bkel0677 on Wed, 2010-04-14 15:53.

kids want lust not love

dude kids are learning about sex from kids their own age. They think its the "cool" thing to do. we are learning more about it. but no one is telling us not to have it.

Dear 12maldonadoc, I think

Submitted by tmonteiro on Fri, 2010-04-16 22:12.

Dear 12maldonadoc,

I think you are right about teens being sexually active now in days. I mean there are a lot of teens that loose their virginity at a early age and they are happy. Now in days there are a lot of sex going on and they don't care about the consequence of their sex. We now in days have teens getting pregnant and screwing up there life cause of one mistake. Ugh.

One sentence that stood out to me was  "Is it because that we are being talked about sex that teens have decided to start doing it?  Should we have been told about it? Yes we should be talked about it, but we shouldnt do it until we are at a certain age or until we are married.  I feel i can blame parents for this.  They are not really on top of their children like they should be.   Sometimes they are giving them too much freedom and their children are taking advantage of it." I mean the parents should trust their kids but they should also teach them the consequences of having sex because they could have sex and screw up there lives over one mistake.

One sentence that stood out to me was "It angers me though to know that such young kids that should be playing with toys and stuff are starting to do adult things.  I don't know why they are doing it; is it like a game to them? Does it make them cooler to say "Oh i had sex."? " Yea. You are so right. I mean before everytime someone would say sex someone would say eww. Now every one says it as if its something cool when it is not.

I had a friend who was sexually active and she had sex when she was 13 and she had sex with different guys. I mean I feel bad fo her because her mom doesn't help her. Her mom knows she does this and is scared of trying to control her daughter so thats why I find sexually active kids to be to free. They should wait until they are married.

Thanks for writing I look forward to reading more and more.

 

Abstinence only? I didn't

Submitted by EBecker on Sat, 2010-04-17 08:55.

Abstinence only? I didn't believe it either.

I have long been an advocate of a mix of abstinence education and sex education.  So I was shocked when I read a recent study that took place in a large district in Chicago.  Students in middle schools were divided into three groups-one that would receive abstinence education only, one that got both abstinence and sex ed, and the other got sex ed only (no abstinence).  To my surprise, the students who received abstinence only education had lower teen pregnancy rates than the other two groups.  This led me to believe that perhaps we have become more permissive and accepting of sending the implicit message that sex is okay.  There is a big difference between sexuality and sex, but I'm not sure our adolescents today understand the difference. 

If anyone is interested in reading more about this study, check out the NYTimes archive-I think it was about 9 months ago.

 

Really? I've never heard

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Tue, 2010-09-28 22:13.

Really? I've never heard about that.  I think students should be taught both sex-ed and abstinence.  Abstinence for their young years and sex-ed for in the future if they decide to have sex they would know how to protect themselves.  thank you! 

12maldonadoc, The topic is

Submitted by Matt.Brzowski on Wed, 2010-09-15 15:18.

12maldonadoc,

The topic is very interesting and highly, highly controversial.  I admire you for taking it on.  However, many of the points you state as fact without giving any references to actual statistics.  In your post you say, "i can blame parents for this."  I have trouble taking this and other claims of yours seriously because they are not legitamately backed.  You also allow your emotions to enter into the subject while still attempting to have a profesional tone.  I do agree with you on one idea to an extent.  I feel as America's youth becomes more and more dependent on the use of technology (especially the internet), and more and more exposed to sexual ideas, they are almost pressured into thinking it is normal to be sexually active at such a young age.

Your title is also inadequately backed.  Studies have shown that students now are not being any more educated about sex than they have been in the past.

Thanks for your post, i hope we can talk more about it later.

Thanks for your comment. 

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Tue, 2010-09-28 22:11.

Thanks for your comment.  This post is so old, and trust me, ive been beaten enough by my teachers to use evidence for everything.  I will post another one, andddd i will have sources =]

thanks again and take care!

I agree with your post, "Why

Submitted by aarizmen on Sat, 2010-09-18 14:17.

I agree with your post, "Why are teens being  sexually active if we are being educated about it  more than those in the past .", because it is true its just not how the world was meant to turn out it should be they play with dolls and soliders still I mean the rush to grow up its not worth it I wish they could see it for what it truely is.

One sentence that stands out for me:"Some, believe it or not, at the age of 11! It angers me though to know that such young kids that should be playing with toys and stuff are starting to do adult things." I think this is true because I know friends whos siblings are just growing to fast dying their hair and wanting to do what they see there bigger siblings do such as a friend of mine Abbie her sister is a very sweetlittle girl but just has a mouth the age of a 25 yr old and it doesnt look right.

Another sentence that I found interesting was :"Some though are pressured into having sex." This stood out for me because its a friend they trust that can make then do things they dont want to.

Thanks for writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next.

 

Thanks for your comment, and

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Tue, 2010-09-28 22:01.

Thanks for your comment, and i will write more.  Just when i have the time, i'm being packed with school work already and its only september.  but, once again take care and thanks for your comment =]

Teens and sex, two words

Submitted by CFlores on Mon, 2010-09-20 20:20.

Teens and sex, two words that make compliment each other in the real world today. The pressures of having sex at a young age is really a test of morality; in other words, it is testing the ability that you have grown up with, but only if you grew up with any. The pressures of sex open doors to teens or at least that is what they think, when it just really is making them more vulnerable to a lot of things and I am not just talking about STDs and so forth. When you are having sex with someone at the age that we are in, it is really hard to say that there is any love required because the couple winds up breaking up eventually. I understand how teens feel about love and how much they think that they love a person or that the exact person is their soul-mate and they are completely wrong. Teenagers really do lose a lot of morality at this age because of many pressures and some do go out of their way to fit in or make it seem as though they are just like everyone else; when it really is not normal. Sex is a big responsibility because your morals are based upon it. I know that some teenagers themselves might think that having sex at a teenage age should not be judged, well guess what? Teenagers are looked down upon because they have sex at such a young age, once teenagers have sex; they seem to lose more than just their virginity. Morals are something we grow up with and if you do not have morals, then how do you want be looked at?....Either way, sex is temptation that a lot of teenagers fall for because they think that they need to do it to show love or affection when it is not like that. There are other ways to show affection or love amongst teenagers, but sex should be done at age of appropriateness. Also, it is the fact that teenagers are very irresponsible with their actions, like some find smoking good for them, other teenagers find sex as a action of good at their age. In school I hear all kinds of stories from classmates about their sex life, and from what I hear; to me, it just sounds like the most irresponsible teenage thing to do. Well yeah I agree that you cannot control a teen’s action, and I am very happy to see that there are those who think like me. Parents should also play a big role in family life and the adolescents as well as their actions. Teenagers should not do what they think nowadays is school or are pressured to do so, because once it is done; a big part of your morality system is lost and that is what you are judged upon because that is the real world. Things should be taken at a moderation, why lose your virginity now when you have a whole lifetime to make these decisions?

Thank you for your reply. I

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Tue, 2010-09-28 22:08.

Thank you for your reply. I strongly agreed when you said its also based on morals.  I think that the morals we are taught are fextremely important when it comes to making decisions such as having sexual intercourse or not.  While others tend to be ok with having sex and others not, it all comes down to what you believe in and what you stand by.  And since each person has different values, each person will choose to do something different.

thanks again and take care <3

I strongly disagree with you

Submitted by 14tejadas on Tue, 2010-09-21 21:53.

I strongly disagree with you when you said its the parents fault. Parents dont have control of what their kids choose to do, they cant be watching them every second of the day. I know parents who raised their kids to be very strong minded, confident, and hard working, but they are having sex; and its not like they dont talk to their kids about sex either. They talk to them very openly about it, no question is ignored. So you cant blame it on the parents, atleast not most, especially not the ones who aim to keep there kids from being sexually active at a young age.

I agree that kids arent waiting enough, and may think they are ready when in fact they are not. And some as you said arent strong or smart enough to say no and they do it anyway. What i mainly have to say is, that this applies to many teens, but not all. there are those who are smart enough and may be more mature and understand more than those just throwing themselces into the sexually active cirlce. they understand that you have to be physicaly, mentaly, and emotionally ready, and if you have to think through it alot, most likley your not. the main question you have to ask yourself to see whether your prepared or not is "am i ready for the consiquences?" , and in most simplest term , "am i ready to raise a baby?" if the answer is no, than your not ready to have sex. because having sex and having a baby basicly go hand in hand, you have to be ready for both to have one. not onl do you have to know if your prepared for pregnancy, you have to know how to protect your self from early pergnancy and std's/sti's. thats is something kids dont understand about having sex, that there is alot more information that is needed to know than just babies and std's. you should wait until you know everything about your body, until your comfterablewith your body, until you find that right partner and learn everything about THIER body, then you can start THINKING about having sex. This may sound long, but sex isnt something that should be jumped into either.

i wrote this response when i

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Tue, 2010-09-28 21:59.

i wrote this response when i was 14 years old, currently im going to turn 17.  My views have changed a bit but i still dont belive in pre-marital sex, for myself.  I will post a 2nd blog on this question =]

thanks for your comment!

I am more upset that people

Submitted by GSoukup on Fri, 2010-09-24 08:27.

I am more upset that people are having stupid sex. Having sex is a natural thing and people have sex. Its a natural thing. But those who have unprotected sex with many different partners are tho ones who get STD's and other things. People who use religion as a reason to not have sex, is a good reason, but they stay ignorent to the reasons people do and when it comes a time where they are going to have sex, they do not know what they are doing, or supposed to do (not the act of sex, but the nessacary procautions needed to stay safe). No sex is safe sex, but safe sex is also safe sex.

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Thank you for your

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Tue, 2010-09-28 21:56.

Thank you for your response.  And like ive been telling other commenters i will post a part 2 to this same question because my views have changed a bit.  i dont agree with pre-marital sex but i will post another blog.  Thank you for your comment once agaibn =]

Dear

Submitted by joes on Sun, 2010-10-10 12:48.

Dear 12maldonadoc, 

     You have a great message to our generation, in your article "Why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more than those in the past?"  I do agree I think children are having at sex at too young of an age, and 11 is most definitly too young.  But to make your arguement stronger you need to back your information up with facts, you cannot just assume kids are having more sex than past generations.  Because in all reality "Today, fewer than half of all high school students have had sex: 47.8 percent as of 2007, according to the National Youth Risk Behavior Survey, down from 54.1 percent in 1991."  I got this fact from the New York Times article called "The Myth of Rampant Teenage Promiscuity."  I think you need to do a bit more research next time.  So, I think your message is good, but it's based less on facts and more on personal experiences.  I do agree with this quote "they should also give their children the confidence to go up to them with any questions they have and not tell them that sex is wrong because its not" ,because kids do need to be able to talk about sex with their parents, because if they can't they are gonna talk to their friends who are not going to have any more knowledge than the next kid.  Thank you for this well written article. 

 

 


 

Dear 12maldonadoc, Have you

Submitted by Skylar_Nicole_Zito on Sun, 2010-10-10 13:44.

Dear 12maldonadoc,

Have you taken the time to consider that teens and "children" have always done this over the course of the history of human beings? It is well known that not long ago people were marrying and having children at ages of 14 and even younger. Think back to ancient Greece. Even today, people are still marrying at those young ages.

It is no surprise to me that teens are having sex, they always have, and they always will. To pretend otherwise is to be ignorant and cause even further damage. If we turn a blind eye and tell teens nothing more than to not have sex, like we are doing, then we will see a steep incline of teen pregnancy, sti rates, and other issues.

Have you also considered that sex is a fundemental part of human, as well as all other, nature. To put a restriction on sex between two consenting people of any kind, you are robbing them of their fundemental rights as humans and as creatures of this earth.

Of course, the two people must be consenting, which eleminates anyone under the age of mental maturity, anyone with a physical or mental handicap or disability, any unconscious person , including the dead, and any creatures who cannot speak for themselves. These are the only restrictions, these deal with the issue of rape, pedophillia, necrophillia, and bestiality.

Think about these things. I hope to hear more from you once you've considered these things.

-Skylar

12maldonadoc,     I

Submitted by AnnieL. on Sun, 2010-10-10 14:20.

12maldonadoc,

 

 

I understand your frustrations, the innocence of our generation seems to be disappearing at an alarmingly fast rate. While it seems so simple to blame the media and our parents for their influence on pre-marital sex, have you ever considered that the argument of abstinence could be in fact the reason for this epidemic? I agree wholeheartedly that abstinence is the only 100% way to protect oneself from the various hardships of teenage sexual intercourse such as STD’s as well as pregnancy, but we must approach the subject with an open mind - that of which being the notion that there will always be teenagers who engage in sexual intercourse. While we can try to desexualize the mass media, it is also important to teach our generation about the ways of preventing such adversities, the ever-awkward but necessary discussion of protection. If we only pursue the argument of abstinence we are only creating an environment of shame when the time comes (and it will come) to ask our parents for protection, help, or simply advice on the matter. Sex has always been a taboo subject so there is no way to actually prove that kids are engaging in sexual acts long before they did in previous generations. You also mentioned that we should not participate in sexual intercourse until we are of a certain age. What age is that exactly? Perhaps it is not so much of an age that matters, but of the relationship we are invested in. The emotional consequences of sex remain the same no matter what the age, but differ with a respect partner. My final questions beg; do you truly believe wholeheartedly that our entire nation could engage in abstinence? If you don’t, what do you believe our parents and the mass media could do to help? You mention that they are the reasons for this pandemic, so must have some solutions as well.

I respect your passion for the subject and look forward to a reply,

AnnieL.

 

 

 maldonadoc, this is a very

Submitted by M. Pell on Sun, 2010-10-10 16:28.

 maldonadoc, this is a very interesting and difficult topic.  There is a chance that kids are not necesarily more active now than in the past.  It is highly likely, but today there is much more publicity that makes a big deal out of all these types of issues.  Teens have always been sexually active in some form.  I agree with you however that there is not really a good reason for it.  I believe that in many ways it just exposes teens to more danger.  This new generation of sexually active kids has a big deal to do with the media today.  Sex sells in advertising and movies, and that gives kids the idea that it is ok and cool.  At the end of your article you express the concern that kids will the next generation will be even worse.  However I think there is a chance that they will be much better.  Kids have a tendency to rebel against their parents.  The current generation was faced with parents who in many ways were afraid of sex, so kid had sex.  Maybe the next generation will rebel against their parents sexuality and be more modest.  Once again this is a very difficult topic to predict and discuss but it needs to be addressed in some way.

M. Pell

Views of an Individual

Submitted by Adiamond on Tue, 2011-09-27 20:48.

Dear Carmen,

I was thrilled to read your essay "Why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more than those in the past?" because I think that this topic should be more aware to the parents of teens all around the world. There are so many words that can be said to prevent younger children from being sexually active in the wrong way. One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: "they should also give their children the confidence to go up to them with any questions they have “I think this is very crucial because... parents who have a better relationship with their kids tend to have a greater impact on the kids decisions weather their decisions are “right” or “wrong”. Another sentence that I found enticing was: “we don’t have to have sex to love someone.” This stood out for me because I agree completely with the statement. So much of media expresses that to love someone you are more sexually active while I think it’s the total opposite.

Your essay reminds me of something that happened to me. One time there was this lady who came to my school and discussed abstinence. She expressed how sex is like Christmas, it is so much greater waiting for all the presents at one given day then it is to see a present every day, and then there is no surprise when Christmas day comes to what you are being given.

Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because I enjoyed reading about a topic that I have such a great point of view on and seeing someone else have such strong opinions about what they are writing.

You are so right ! Young kids

Submitted by michellea on Thu, 2011-10-06 18:36.

You are so right !

Young kids are out having sex . It's crazy what then world has come to .

I remember one time I was at the park with my boyfriend and there was this little girl ; like around10 or 11 years old . She standing around with all her little girlfriends and she's talking about she's not a virgin .She said she lost it and she started making moaning sounds . OMG ! I wanted to smack her and make her point her mother out so I can slap her too .

I don't know how these little girls know what sex is .. because when I was 10 I was still playing my dolls . I didn't even know what sex was til I was 13 . It really makes me think about this becuase I think of my little sister and all my young cousins . I don't know what i'd do if I was ever to hear them talking like that . They'd be picking their teeth up from the floor . I don't play that .

Like sex can be amazing when it's with the right person , at the right time , and age . Even if you think you love the person , you should think twice . Your virginity is the most sacred thing , and you shouldn't give it to the person who won't be there when it's all over . I'm not saying having sex is bad , because it't not . Sex has to be something you know you want . But if you are gonna do it , you should always be protected .

Michelle <3

Dear 12maldonadoc, I agree

Submitted by BECA13_PERLA on Sun, 2011-11-20 19:02.

Dear Carmen,
I agree with 99% of what you've said. Most of what you said I've said to my friends myself.

Sex is something someone should wait for, not rush into. However, I don't agree that its the parents' fault. Having sex is the decision of the teen, not theirs. They can tell their teen all about sex and how it has consequences, but at the end its the decision their teen makes.

I loved the fact that you wrote: "At a really young age i doubt we know what love is, We're still kids." I don't know how many times I've said this myself.

How can a teenager say they're in love when they don't know what love is? Some might think they know, but is that enough to say, "Yes, I want to have sex with that person I'm in love with?"

Sex Ed will not prevent sex at an early age

Submitted by BECA13_YSABEL on Sun, 2011-11-20 23:52.

Dear Carmen,

I have a very strong opinion about the topic your are discussing in your blog. I also believe that teens are starting to have sex sooner than they should as time passes. One sentence that stood out to me is " It angers me though to know that such young kids that should be playing with toys and stuff are starting to do adult things." I agree with you. When i hear about 14 and 15 year olds having sex I always think "you probably don't know how to make yourself a meal, clean your own room or do pretty much anything for yourself and your here thinking your all grown having sex." It really angers me as well. I feel that if they think they are grown enough to have sex they should be grown enough to do other things "adults" do.

I believe they are doing it for many reasons. One is that the people around them are doing it so, to them it becomes something normal rather than something one should value and take very serious. Peer pressure also plays a big role. If everyone around you is doing something and they telling you how good it is, it becomes very hard to keep yourself from doing it. You really must be a strong minded individual with a mind of your own not to.

I disagree with you when you said, "I feel i can blame parents for this. They are not really on top of their children like they should be." I would not randomly blame the parents. I do believe that the parent is one of many things that play a role in it. However, it is not their fault. Their are parents out there who educate their kids about sex, the child can still go out and make the decision of having sex at an early age. In that case, how can you blame the parent when they did all they could? Furthermore, it could go the other way. A parent could not educate their child about sex and the kid could choose to not have sex at an early age. I have seen both cases in the people around me. I believe it depends on the parent and the kid it self. Some kids are strong minded while others aren't and people also have options.

Finally, I do not believe that being educated about sex is going to prevent kids from having sex at early age. I do think that if a child is educated about sex the likely hood of the child having sex at an early age will decrease but it will never be 100% that if he child is educated about sex they will not be active at an early age.

Thanks for your writing.I'm looking forward t what you write next.

Dear Carmen , I agree &

Submitted by amaric on Wed, 2011-12-14 14:10.

Dear Carmen ,

I agree & disagree with your post, " Why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more than those in the past?,". The reason why I disagree is you cant always talk to your parents about sex because they some of them would jump to conclusions.
The reason why I agree is your speaking the truth & some people never want to hear the truth .

One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: " Sometimes they are giving them too much freedom and their children are taking advantage of it." This stood out for me because its not true some parents let their kids go out & explore so they no whats going on in the real world. There's no need to sugar coat it its reality.

Another sentence that i agree with was " I asked some of my friends who have been active, "Why do you do it?". And they have been giving me lame answers like oh because it feels good or because I love him or her. " This stood out for me because everybody has their own opinion & you wont know until you try it yourself. I agree with you waiting until marriage though because its only right, sometimes its right at the moment but something little can make you lose that.

Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because you seem like a good person. I support your opinion 100% :)

lol, thank you for your reply

Submitted by 12maldonadoc on Thu, 2011-12-15 22:08.

lol, thank you for your reply =]
Please read my newest response to the same topic. I wrote this one about 3 years ago =]

thank you and take care!

:)

Submitted by diamondm on Fri, 2012-01-20 14:00.

Dear Carmen ,

The post you wrote on kids being sexually active at a young age was very interesting to read. However, I can relate,agree and disagree with your post. I think because I myself was sexually active at a young age. That doesn't mean I was having sex with anyone just for the fun of it or "it felt good". I was a curious 14 year old girl (by the way im 18 now) who was experiencing everything about a female and male. I know that doesn't mean to go have sex with anyone but it happened only once and I KNOW for a fact it's safe to say that I am mentally, physically and emotionally attracted to females. I guess you really wouldn't understand unless you was in my shoes or maybe i was just trying to experience life too fast.

I don't agree with what was stated in the fourth paragraph "I feel I can blame parents for this. They are not really on top of their children like they should be. Sometimes they are giving them too much freedom and their children are taking advantage of it. They should also give their children the confidence to go up to them with any questions they have and not tell them that sex is wrong because its not, just doing it at a young age is." because my mother always spoke to me about sex and when should it be appropriate for me. Not only me but a few others I know also. My mother did not grant me 100% freedom until i hit the age of 16. I think as a parent my mother did everything she could to teach me and protect me but I took it in my own hands to do something I knew I couldn't waited for. So I don't fully blame parents.

I also believe that too much of NOT having any freedom can lead a person into running away or going insane and doing inappropriate things.

I do agree with you on young aged teens being more educated. Especially now because each year there are more and more youngsters not only having sex but also getting pregnant.

I feel that either way teens/pre-teens will follow whatever they want to do but with knowledge on every cause and effects on having sex maybe it will change their minds and views about growing up too fast or in my case "trying to experience what sex you prefer".

Teens being sexually active response

Submitted by baetir on Fri, 2012-02-17 12:23.

Dear Carmen,

I was interested in your post, “Why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more than those in the past?” because I agree with your thoughts and ideas. Also I appreciate the ways you expressed your opinion about the topic and feelings towards the concept.

One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: “I feel I can blame parents for this. They are not really on top of their children like they should be.” I chose this sentence because I agree parents should be more strict and focused on their child’s activities and actions. If they were more concerned with their child most of their ideals of sex would be different and limited.

Another sentence that I liked from your post was: “I also blame the Internet because teens can have access to porn sites or chat rooms [cyber sex, curiosity can lead to having sex]” I chose this sentence as well because I strongly agree with you about the bad things the Internet can offer if not supervised. Also curiosity can lead to wanting to find out more about certain things that children shouldn’t be aware of until a certain age.

Your post reminds me of something that happened to me. One time I had a friend that asked me if she should have sex, because her boyfriend pressured her to do it. I told her it’s your choice, so she ended up doing it. Now years later she regrets it deeply and I some what feel to blame for telling her it was her decision. Looking back she was merely 14 years old, which is a pretty young age to even consider having sex. Showing that our generation is still dealing with these types of issues amongst us teens.

Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because I like your views on things and your opinions are accurate to the topics. Also because it’s obvious you’re a great writer who shares her thoughts and is honest with reality. I would like to see your views on other certain topics of your interests from your point of view.

Dear Carmen, I loved your

Submitted by rodjen on Sat, 2012-02-25 17:04.

Dear Carmen,

I loved your post, “Why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more than those in the past?” because teens are being sexually active without knowing something and how this could affect them. Teens and adults also should think of the effects things have.

One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is “They should also give their children the confidence to go up to them with any questions they have and not tell them that sex is wrong because it’s not, just doing it at a young age is.” Parents should communicate with their children to help them gain the confidence to talk to them when they have difficult situations.

Another sentence that I agreed with was “And even if we did know what love is, we don't have to have sex to love someone.” This stood out for me because it is true because if you love someone it does not mean you have to have sex. Love is respect and each person has to respect the way they feel without feeling any pressure.

Your post reminds me of something that happened to me. One time I was talking to my friends about teens being sexually active and we discussed the different types of perspective some teens have. Sometime they feel is cool or pressure, the answer can changed depending the person.
Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because your writing grab my attention and was very interesting knowing your point of view.

Dear Carmen, I am very

Submitted by dormah on Thu, 2012-03-01 19:30.

Dear Carmen,

I am very interested by this post “Why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more” because I agree with you. These days most teenagers are getting pregnant just because they think it’s cool.

One sentence you wrote that stood out for me is, “It angers me though to know that such young kids that should be playing with toys and stuff are starting to do adult things.” I like this quote because teenagers these days do care about everything they do, and just because they see their parents or guardians doing it they think that it is normal for them to do it, too.

Another sentence you wrote that amazed me was,”I feel I can blame parents for this.” This stood out for me because parents do not take their time to talk to their children about sex. If parents aren’t there for their children soon thy will think that they could do anything they want.

Your post reminds me of something that happened to my friend because of sex. She thought that getting pregnant would get her parents to pay more attention to her, but one thing she didn’t realize is that being pregnant is only harming her not her parents.

Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because I really enjoyed reading your post and it was very interesting.

Child don't be sexually active

Submitted by aviwes on Wed, 2012-03-14 18:52.

Dear Carmen:

I am interested in you post, “ Why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more than those in the past?” because as a teenager we realize that we don’t like to play with toys anymore. The first thing that we say is that we are not teenagers anymore and we consider ourselves as an adult. The first stupid thing that we say is that we want to live the school, but when we do something wrong the consequences don’t fall in us, but it falls to our family; often we don’t now how to face those problems. Some of us are thinking about having a baby but we don’t know how to be responsible with ourselves.

One sentence you wrote that stand out for me is, “It angers me though to know that such young kids that should be playing with toys and stuff are starting to do adult things.’’ I agree with you because as kids we don’t like to play with toys; we like to do adult things for example to go to parties, sleep at time we want to, and some times I realize how the world has changed a lot is not like in my times when I was kids and now I am a young man.

Another sentence that stand out for me is, “ Why are our teens taking risks while their being educated?” I think this shows to the people that they are adults, and show that school is not important to them; and those are people that they don’t think about their future. They say the school is not important just to not do nothing, and they don’t know what are they doing most of the time; they don’t think before they do something. They don’t imagine that one day their baby would may ask them father or mother why you leave the school and they will not find an answer to that question.

Your post reminds me of something that happened to my friend. She didn’t live the school but she got on drugs, and she had a problem with her mom and I told her you don’t realize that you are destroying your life. You are a teenager don’t think about drugs, and think about your future what do you want to be when you get old.

Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because I am interested in your post; I like your post and I like how you talk about the teenagers. The teenagers only need to think about the school. Only 3% of teenagers think about the school now, and the other 97% don’t think about school only to be in the streets doing nothing.=

Dear Carmen, I strongly agree

Submitted by marser on Sun, 2012-03-25 13:43.

Dear Carmen,

I strongly agree with your post, “Why Are Teens Being Sexually Active If We Are Being Educated About It More Than The Past” because I and i’m sure many other teenagers that aren’t sexually active wonder the same thing. One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: “Some, believe it or not, at the age of 11!’. I think this is so valid because some kids girls and boys are interested in trying sexually activity or are doing them. And most kids that are eleven, are just entering in middle school and that’s where it usually begins, in middle school.

Another sentence I believe is valid is: “They were never told about the consequences about it or were educated about it.”. This stood out for me because I feel it is important to always discuss the good and the bads of everything or move anyone wants to make. I also feel that it is very important for every child to have the birds and bees talk with an adult.

Your “Why Are Teens Being Sexually Active If We Are Being Educated About It More Than Those In The Past” remind same of a conversation my family had. My family had this conversation when they found out that my 15t year old cousin started having sex. My grandmother blamed it on the adults in my family because she said they should have not been reading their sexual adult content books around us. But I feel that teens that are constantly stuck in the house, where their parents don’t let them get out, start earlier than those that do have freedom. I think so because when a child is kept in the house, they wonder what is taking place in the streets and then they get out and want to experiment on what they hear.

Thanks for your writing, I feel that you had a lot of information that some people should study upon.

Dear Carmen : I am intrigued

Submitted by encsha on Tue, 2013-03-19 14:22.

Dear Carmen :
I am intrigued by your post, "Why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more than those in the past?," because it made me think a lot toward the actions of young people. It grinds my gears to know that children that are younger than 14 are having sexual intercourse when they aren’t at the age to do it.
One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: "I don't know why they are doing it; is it like a game to them? Does it make them cooler to say "Oh I had sex."?" I think this is true because I still do not know why they do it at such a young age. Maybe it is all about peer pressure or fitting in.
Another sentence that I read was: "I feel I can blame parents for this. They are not really on top of their children like they should be." This stood out for me because I would not agree with this. You can’t blame it on the parents because they give their children freedom. It is what the children decide to do with their freedom.
Your post reminds me of something that happened to me. One time I was talking to my friend that lost her virginity at the age of 12. She thought it was okay because she lost it to her first love, but I still thought it was wrong. I don’t feel the same way anymore because they are still together till this day and she is 16.
Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because you seem very serious about your work. You put a lot of emotion and true opinion into your writing; I really enjoy it.

SEX

Submitted by Anonymous on Wed, 2013-03-27 13:47.

 

Dear Carmen:


 

I disagree with your post, "Why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more than those in the past" because its very opinionated. I'm not saying sex is a good thing too have but you cannot judge others if they wanna do it. I feel like as long as they know the consequences of it and understand them then its their business.

One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: “ If you're doubting then don't do it" I think this is good advice because you should always follow your instincts and do what you're comfortable doing. I Think it’s a good thing that you practice abstinence, but you cannot judge others if they want to have sex. I look forward to hearing your reply!


 

 

Interesting

Submitted by hermoi on Sun, 2013-04-14 11:16.

Dear Carmen

I am interested with your post, “Why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more than those in the past?” because we see this almost everywhere we go now in days, with curiosity going through our minds and wondering why our generation of our young lives do this kind of things now in days. Also it shows who to blame as well because not only do kids have the fault for everything but so do the parents.

One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is, “I don't know why they are doing it; is it like a game to them? Does it make them cooler to say "Oh I had sex."? Before a kid talking about sex was never heard of.” I think this is interesting because kids now in days actually do take sex as if it was a game like a game they had to do at a young age to be cool and tell everybody about it and how it felt. Also I found it interesting because some kids now in days also lie about having sex they pretend they had sex at an early age so they could fit in with the other students who had sex at a young age.

Another sentence that captured my attention was, “I feel I can blame parents for this.” This stood out for me because parents are the ones who are supposed to be responsible for their children and teach them from wrong to good. Also because some parents just let their children have freedom which makes things worst, it makes them feel that they have the right to do whatever they want, and this gives them a path that won't lead them to a good one.

I definitely agree with you that internet is to be blame because this is where kids start meeting strangers and this is where things start occurring like sex once they meet. Another reason I agree with you is because like you said parents are also to be blame for their lack of being parents on their responsibility.

Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next because your topic seem to have grabbed my attention and hopefully your next post will as well.

teen sexuality

Submitted by pordex on Mon, 2013-04-15 12:17.

Dear 12maldonadoc,

I am interested by your post, "Why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more than those in the past?," because I agree, but on the other hand I also disagree with some of things that you have stated in your post.One sentence you wrote that stands out for me in your post was "I feel I can blame parents for this. They are not really on top of their children like they should be. Sometimes they are giving them too much freedom and their children are taking advantage of it." I think this is not true because parents cannot always be with their children 24/7. Parents also shouldn’t be so overprotective with their children because their child will not have the chance to learn from their own mistakes. I also agree with you about,"Sometimes parents are giving their child too much freedom and their children are taking advantage of it.” Another sentence that I viewed and thought was extremely true was: "At a really young age I doubt we know what love is. We're still kids. And even if we did know what love is, we don’t have to have sex to love someone."
This stood out for me because I actually believe that statement. I agree with you that we are too young to know what love is. One reason I say this is because “Love” is an extremely strong word and it should not be thrown out there like it is. Another reason I agree with you is because you’re correct about how you do not need to have sex in order to love someone. If you love someone then show it but sex does not need to have to be involved unless you are sure you’re ready for it. Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because this post was extremely interesting and informative.

Your post is true!

Submitted by katolm on Tue, 2013-04-16 10:27.

Hello Carmen,
I am interested by your post, “Why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more than those in the past?”, because I would like to know the answer to this question as well. Many teens in my neighborhood are still way too young to be having any type of sexual contact, but they don't realize it. I think that some girls go through this because they are forced or just are going through too many obstacles in life and do not know how to deal with them.
One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: “I also blame the Internet because teens can have access to porn sites or chat rooms.” This is absolutely true because although parents should always check on their children to see what they are doing, sometimes the teens are alone or have their own computer. Teens are around the time where they become curious and this is where porn sites begin. I think that porn sites should be blocked for teens.
Another sentence that interested me is: “At a really young age I doubt we know what love is.” I tell my friends this all the time. They break up with their boyfriends and begin to cry and give up on everything. We like one boy and think that their aren't any more boys who are mature and loving. I believe that we should wait until we get older to actually understand the concept of “being in love”.
Your post reminds me of something that I saw on the news last year. A 16 year old girl killed herself over her boyfriend. She had sexual interactions with him and then he broke up with her. It was all over the news for about a month. I didn't know her but I felt terrible because many female teens go through the exact thing. Some know how to deal with the situation and some do not.
Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next. I also read your newest post. It was very interesting. I like how you share your feelings on the topic and you speak for all teens because it is something that many people experience.

nice post

Submitted by nunant on Tue, 2013-04-16 10:31.

Dear Edwardr:
I am interested by your article, “Should teens have part-time jobs?," because i have thought about getting a part time job. I want to get a part time job because i don't always want to depend on my mom to give me money.One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: Not having enough sleep or relaxation takes its toll on a teen's general health" I think this is true because having to go to school so early, and then going to work won't give students enough sleep.Another sentence that caught my eyes was: "Teenagers are not any better equipped to go to school in the daytime" This stood out for me because i think teens can go to school during the daytime and then work if school didn't start so early in the morning.Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because this can help me write my inquiry because this is a topic i am interested about.

Dear 12maldonadoc I am very

Submitted by marmor on Tue, 2013-04-16 14:50.

Dear 12maldonadoc
I am very interesting with your post, "why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more than those in the past," because you're right about that this days young people are having sex only because they think they love that person or even worse they have fun and don't care if the other person may actually have feelings for them.

One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: "Yes we should be talked about it, but we shouldn't do it until we are at a certain age or until we are married." I think this is something people don’t really care because talking about sex its like telling them to go and have fun but that’s not how it works.

Another sentence that I agree was: "At a really young age I doubt we know what love is. We're still kids. And even if we did know what love is, we don't have to have sex to love someone." This stood out for me because people have sex with the person they think they’re in love with but sometimes that person just wants to them to believe so they can have sex with them.
I do agree with you that even if we did know what love is, we don't have to have sex to love someone one reason I say this is because there are other ways of showing someone how much you love them and not by having sex.

Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because you have a really interesting topic to talk about.

Hello,12maldonadoc. Sex

Submitted by The_Insparation on Mon, 2013-04-22 09:51.

Hello,12maldonadoc.
Sex should NOT be for children. Wait until you're truly in love with someone to have sex. I loved when you said, "I don't know why they are doing it; is it like a game to them? Does it make them cooler to say "Oh I had sex."? Before a kid talking about sex was never heard of." It seems as if having sex is a game to children. It shouldn't be treated as such. It's the most serious, intimate thing that two individuals share. It makes kids sound dumb to say, "Oh, I had sex last night."

Kids

Submitted by telmck on Mon, 2013-04-22 15:32.

I am touched by your post, "Why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more than those in the past?," because I don’t think teens should be having kids at an young age at all. I also don’t think parents should be ok with kids having kids.

One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: "It angers me though to know that such young kids that should be playing with toys and stuff are starting to do adult things." I think this is true because their is some kids out there that just do these things to look cool and some kids do it because of what they see other people around them doing. I also like your statement because things are changing around us, but it’s up to the growns ups to fix it!

Another sentence that I looked was: "They should also give their children the confidence to go up to them with any questions they have and not tell them that sex is wrong because its not, just doing it at a young age is." This stood out for me because some kids do have questions but don’t want to talk about it because they don’t want to be judge. What you have stated is also true because I feel like if the kids to talk about it then they will think twice.

Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because I would like to know if you know anyone that has done these things.

Agreed.

Submitted by gombar on Tue, 2013-04-23 11:58.

Dear Carmen,

I am intrigued by your post “Why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more than those in the past? " because your right about kids younger than I am already becoming sexually active . One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: "I don't know why they are doing it; is it like a game to them? Does it make them cooler to say "Oh I had sex."?" I think this is good because why would anyone so young be proud of admitting to having sexual inter course. Another sentence that I liked was: "At a really young age I doubt we know what love is. We're still kids. And even if we did know what love is, we don’t have to have sex to love someone." This stood out for me because you’re right no one really knows who they truly love and sex shouldn't be apart of a relationship and that could be like the only thing the people in the relationship would think about.
I do agree with you that the internet is one of distraction to certain kids. One reason I say this is because kids think that since people online like doing it then maybe they should get influenced and do it to. Another reason I agree/disagree with you is because if they are influenced by the internet which exposes almost everything then kids would just do it since they think that having sex is so cool.

Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because it showed that kids and young teens should enjoy their youth and not waste it on such a stupid like sex until they're older and be to live life as it’s given.

very interesting

Submitted by rolail on Mon, 2013-04-29 15:44.

Dear,12maldonadoc :
I agree with your post, “Why are teens being sexually active if we are being educated about it more than those in the past?," because some of the points you made was so true. i agree with everything you said. Tennagers shouldn't behaving sex at this age.
One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: "Why are our teens taking risks while their being educated? Is it because that we are being talked about sex that teens have decided to start doing it?" I think this is interesting because i’ve heard of that question before. i feel that teens have sex even though they educated is because they know how to protect themselves and what not to do. its better for them to know and do it then don't know and do it. Some teens are doing it to be “ cool” or to make their boyfriend or girlfriend stay with them.
Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next.