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The most positive pessimist

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Nov 7, 2011

I have recently been looking up more information about my question that I will have until Thanksgiving, which is: "Is my outlook on life negative or positive?" I looked up the words optimism and pessimism on Wikipedia in order to get more information about my outlook on life, getting more into both words in ways I never thought I could. I've been truly expanding my mind and the meanings to these words so I can completely understand and see where I fall into place.

When I looked up "Optimism," [Optimism. (2011, November 7). In Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia. Retrieved 19:07, November 7, 2011, from http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Optimism&oldid=459416754 ], I found myself understanding exactly what they meant and truly observing every little thing that was stated. By doing so I realized that I have very little in common with what was being said. In the article, they talk about optimism involving “hopefulness and confidence about the future or successful outcome of something; a tendency to take a favorable or hopeful view.”

I checked this in Dictionary.com [ http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/optimism ]. As soon as I read this, I considered myself a pessimist. I though it was funny that it happened within the first three sentences. I thought this quickly. Even though I know I am a bright individual and I know that with my determination that I can go far, I also know this world is cruel. Sometimes even you’re intelligence can't get you too far in this society, especially in this recession that a lot of Americans are still going through. When I think like this, I start wondering: where does that leave me? I am smart, but am I smart enough?

In the Wikipedia article, they also spoke about how optimistic people take failure, stating: "Optimists accept failures and also learn from them." I think this is anyone who is strong willed and devoted to do something. You don't have to be optimistic just to take a loss well and learn from it.

I believe I am more of a pessimist, but even I can accept when I fail and try to figure out how to improve. So why should it just be for people who tend to be optimistic? Even though I am not innocent, I hate to fail and I am a bit of a sore loser. At the end, I try to learn from it.

I don't let my failures define me. This idea is restated in another Wikipedia article, "Learned Optimism" [Learned optimism. (2011, October 28). In Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia. Retrieved 15:55, November 9, 2011, from http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Learned_optimism&oldid=457873458 ]. In this article, they say: “The benefits of an optimistic outlook are many: Optimists are higher achievers and have better overall health.” When I read that they say that people who are optimistic are higher achievers, I tried to figure out what optimistic people have that I don't, and then it hit me!

They are happy-go-lucky, ready for each day, and waiting to handle whatever comes to them. I am more of the type to be dragged down knowing that there might be a lot of things I have to get done. It might even stress me out if it's something I am not up for, but must do. On the other hand, if I am excited for the assignment, then I would probably be one of the first people to give it in.

When it comes to health for optimistic people, this Wikipedia article says:

Optimists have been shown to live healthier lifestyles which may influence disease. For example, optimist smoke less, are more physically active, consume more fruit, vegetable and whole-grain bread, and consume more moderate amounts of alcohol.

These two sentences made the most sense to me out of both of these articles on optimisms. I don't know many people who are out-of-the-way optimistic who smoke every day and who drink a lot, even though I do know a few. People like me can't wait for the weekend in order to do these things intensively, but does it really justify both sides by putting them in this category? How can you really tell that being optimistic has anything at all to do with health?

In a Newsweek article that I found online on the Daily Beast, [Sara Kliff, This Is Your Brain on Optimism. (2007, Oct. 23) Newsweek. Retrieved November 9, 2011, http://www.thedailybeast.com/newsweek/2007/10/23/this-is-your-brain-on-o... ] it states: “The exact nature of the relationship between optimism and good health is still unclear.” Later on, it states: “Optimists, as opposed to pessimists, are more likely to take care of their health because they believe in the potential positive outcomes.”

I think it makes more sense to say that since they are positive thinkers, optimists believe that they should keep their health good and want to live a long time for whatever reason. They are thinking way ahead, which I doubt pessimist would do to this extent, and it sounds very possible for people who are optimistic.

I also looked up an article from Wikipedia about pessimism in order to be completely sure on what suits me better [Pessimism. (2011, October 31). In Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia. Retrieved 16:17, November 9, 2011, from http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Pessimism&oldid=458238082 ]. The first thing that caught my eye from this specific article is that it states: “Philosophical pessimism is the similar but not identical idea that life has a negative value, or that this world is as bad as it could possibly be."

I do think this world is a bit cruel and unfair. I believe that in this life people don't do things just out of the generosity of their own heart anymore. It's a shame because I am pretty sure that in the past people cared more about others and less about themselves. It’s also a shame how money has taken over the world. It has made so many people greedy and has made them feel as if they are better then others just because of the size of their wallet.

“Pessimism is sometimes understood to be a self-fulfilling prophecy; that if an individual feels that something is bad, it is more likely to get worse.” When I read this, I automatically related because I am one of those people who believes that when something has gone wrong, it will only get worse before it gets better. I honestly live my life by this. This could be my motto because of the fact that it has yet to fail me.

In order to back up my last fact, I found an article on a Web site, PsychCentral that speaks about these two words, optimism and pessimism and how they compare and contrast with each other. [Jeremy Deanh, Pessimism vs Optimism. In PsychCentral http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/03/17/pessimism-vs-optimism In this article they state:

To the optimists, the pessimists seem too down on everything, always just a little too keen to pour cold water on any exciting plans.To the pessimists, though, the optimists are out of touch with reality. Can’t they see what a nasty, cruel and accident-prone world we live in?

When I had read this, I kind of chuckled for the simple fact that this is something I have thought about so many times. At one point in my life, when I was completely negative in every way possible, all my thoughts where just so pessimistic. The statement from the PsychCentral article is a very true statement because I am sure a lot of people would consider me a party pooper because some plans are just not planned all the way through, and I don't go all out without being sure about things.

“Happiness is not inextricably linked to optimism, nor is pessimism inextricably linked to unhappiness. One could easily imagine an unhappy optimist, and a happy pessimist.” I was happy when I read this because it made pessimistic and optimistic people a bit equal for once. Most of the time they make people who have pessimistic ideas or beliefs seem depressed, as if they have nothing to live for. I am pretty sure that's not the case with all of us, even though it might be for some.

In another article that backs up Wikipedia, [Mark Claridge, Optimistic Vs Pessimistic, In Boxing Scene http://www.boxingscene.com/motivation/34973.php ] the author states:

The pessimist will see the worst in something. They will then take all the responsibility personally. They will then feel bad not just for what they have done, but for who they are, and believe nothing is right.

Even though this sounds overly depressing, I am one who can relate. I am the type who, when something goes wrong, I feel as if I should have seen that coming. I often blame myself a lot for not knowing what was going down or not catching on to something when it was right under my nose.

When a close friend betrays me, I feel as if I have bad judgement, and automatically I feel as if I should improve my judgement so it won't happen again. It is impossible to know people right off the back. You might be able to get a slight clue of who they are, but you will never fully know. Even though I know this, I still continue to blame myself even though I try to remind myself that I am human, and I cannot prevent everything.

Another statement from the article on pessimism in Wikipedia is: “Depression is due to unrealistic negative views about the world.” And later they state: “Pessimists, however, are often able to provide arguments that suggest that their understanding of reality is justified.” When I had read what they are saying in Wikipedia, I instantly knew that that’s the type of person I am.

When I feel strong about something, a whole room of people can be disagreeing with me, but I can throw out facts that back up my opinions. Sometimes I am really good at it, I can make you believe me and completely change your opinion, unless you're just as passionate about it as I am. I do not think that my opinions are wrong, I just think they haven't been proven yet.

I am also one to get myself into a deeper depression then I already am in since I over-think everything, over-analyze things that I have already analyzed a million times. I try to find solutions even when I know there isn't anything I can do to help, which puts me in a bad position because I want to do more, do better for myself or others. This is especially true for family members, just because I need to help the people I love the most. It makes me feel better about myself to know I have the power to make someone else's life seem easy even when mine is feeling the most complicated.

When I am down and a bit depressed, I don't do much with myself. My energy level is on low. I don't want to go out and socialize much, and sometimes, if it gets me really bad, I barely want to speak to anyone. Moments like that I'd rather stay home and absorb myself more into myself, if that makes sense to others.

I double-checked this fact about how pessimism is linked to depression in another article, [CompleteCounseling, Pessimism and depression. (2008, July 17). In Trusted.MD. http://trusted.md/blog/completecounseling/2008/07/17/pessimism_and_depre... ] where they state:

A person’s outlook on life, for example, can be enough to either keep them out of depression, or make them more susceptible to falling into a depression. Having a negative outlook on life or a pessimistic outlook on life can increase the chances of becoming depressed, because life is not as enjoyable as it should be.

Like I said earlier in this essay, sometimes I allow myself to get deep into my depression.

I understand that a lot of people, especially people who are pessimistic, feel as if our views won't get us far or are wrong because of the fact that we are so negative. But speaking for myself, I can’t sit here and act all happy and optimistic when that's not how I feel on the inside. If I ignore feelings and try to just live with it, I wouldn't be able to survive. I honestly think I would kill my emotions more by lying about it, saying something like, life is all great.

I am not one to deny something, especially to myself. My outlook is a part of who I am. It helps me think things out even though sometimes when I feel down or upset, I can't think clearly. Sometimes I think that it's better for me to allow myself to feel down since I usually am the one to pretend to be okay around people who don't need to know my business.

When I get around my family, I just let my depression take over me. Sometimes it will be very obvious that I am feeling down because I can't find it in me to always hide it, but I defiantly will not speak about it since I never speak about things. Then my anger will make me vulnerable. I might be very grouchy and sometimes very introverted. Sometimes when I am feeling really down, I flip out very easily. I argue over anything, and I still won't speak about things that are on my mind and bothering me.

I honestly can't see myself being optimistic, even though I don’t consider myself a full-blown pessimist. I do find ways to deal with things. I write. I sing. I have my poetry, my diary that I have been keeping since the 7th grade, and of course music in general. I know how to keep myself sane. I guess that's why my outlook doesn't bother me as much as it bothers others.

I do understand how it can affect me, which is the main reason I was so interested in knowing if I was a pessimist, but it's been clear to me since I started writing about it. Even though I have my moments when I am extremely positive, I know that the majority of the time I am a negative person with a negative outlook since I am always expecting the worst. With all of this being said, hello, I am Stephanie, and I am one of the most positive pessimists ever.

Comments

Amazing Writing

Submitted by evelyns on Thu, 2011-11-10 13:44.

Dear Stephanie,

I learned a lot from reading your post, "The most positive pessimist" because you really explain the difference Pessimism and Optimistic people. After reading I figured out I'm more of an Optimistic person.

One sentence that stands out for me is: "Optimists accept failures and also learn from them." I think this is right because as myself even though its hard to accept that I failed I do my best to learn from what went wrong.

Another sentence that stood out was: "The pessimist will see the worst in something. They will then take all the responsibility personally. They will then feel bad not just for what they have done, but for who they are, and believe nothing is right." In my view I really people who are pessimist shouldn't really feel this way I guess I say this because I'm Optimist.. but either way you shouldn't feel this way because you got to live life and enjoy it and be open minded.

Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next because I'd like to learn more about Pessimist and Optimistic people.

Evelyn

Submitted by stephanieb on Tue, 2011-11-15 13:10.

First i will like to say thank you for your comment, and you are right we shouldn't feel that way its how life works and we shouldn't blame our selves. i dont apply that to everything i guess it just depends on whats going on in my life and the situation i have been put in.

Dear Stephanie: I very much

Submitted by crystalr on Thu, 2011-11-10 14:02.

Dear Stephanie:

I very much enjoyed your post, "The Most Positive Pessimist," because it was very informative and it allowed me to get into your mind a little bit, which I liked a lot x3. I can tell you put a lot of yourself into this essay and it was very well written.

One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: "I believe I am more of a pessimist, but even I can accept when I fail and try to figure out how to improve." I think this is interesting because you're right in your essay about pessimists being looked as complete and total downers. I am a pessimist myself, but I know when to look up to things, pick myself up from the floor, learn and move on. And that is a good trait to have, well, I think so.

Another sentence that caught my eye was: "Even though I know this, I still continue to blame myself even though I try to remind myself that I am human, and I cannot prevent everything." This is a very pessimistic thought and action, and I do this as well. Even though things seem to be all your fault, it's not most of the time. Adding more onto your plate won't help anyone.

I'd like to thank you for your post, it was very well written, very in depth, and even a bit emotional. Keep it up, you're awesome x3

Smiles <3

*Giggles

Submitted by stephanieb on Tue, 2011-11-15 13:08.

Crystal thank you so much for your comment i also appreciate when you comment you always know what to say. "I am a pessimist myself, but I know when to look up to things, pick myself up from the floor, learn and move on. And that is a good trait to have, well, I think so." Once you stated that i was sold, i think this trait gives me a huge advantage and i think it works fine with me as long i know when to let it affect me and when to forget it.

Great Piece

Submitted by josel on Thu, 2011-11-10 14:13.

Dear Stephanie,

I believe that life is meant to be mysterious and undecided.

In your quote that talks about the meaning of "optimistic," you wrote: "They also spoke about how optimistic people take failure and learn from them." We all can learn how to cope with this system of life places here today." I think this is true because if we break the laws or follow the rules in the wrong way, then we are put to jail. Governments can go to war to kill, but yet they dont get locked up.

If we fail ourselves then we fail life. Another quote that you stated: "When a close friend betrays me, I feel as if I have bad judgement, and automatically I feel as if I should improve my judgement so it won't happen again." This is so true, I can compare this to the government as in taxes and social classes.

We will feel bad judgement because we feel that we must work for ourselves in a company owned by a high power official.

I enjoyed commenting on this article, and I hope you feel the same way too.

Jose

Submitted by stephanieb on Tue, 2011-11-15 13:14.

first i will like to thank you for your comment it was well appreciated, and you are right i think this life is a bunch of mysterious and undecided decisions

My Response

Submitted by kiseemp on Thu, 2011-11-10 14:20.

I agree with your essay "The most positive pessimist", because it has good background evidence supporting your question. You actually took your time to look up information and facts about your topic.

One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is "A person’s outlook on life, for example, can be enough to either keep them out of depression, or make them more susceptible to falling into a depression." I think that is true because if you have a negative outlook on anything it will prove to be negative. But if you have hope or at least thinking positive things might work out for the better.

Another sentence that also stood out to me was "The pessimist will see the worst in something. They will then take all the responsibility personally. They will then feel bad not just for what they have done, but for who they are, and believe nothing is right." The reason this stood out for me is because I know people that are pessimist and they tend to have trouble in finding a good outcome, even if the situation is not that serious. They will blow it out of proportion.

Your post reminds of the time when I lost my metro-card and my girlfriend kept saying over and over again, "How are you going to get around with no metro-card?" She felt that I had lost all mode of transportation. I couldn't help but laugh at her as she got more and more frantic. I kept explaining to her that I can get a new one with no hassle but she wasn't hearing me.

To make this long story short, this just shows I'm an optimists and my girlfriend is the pessimist. She always finds ways to stress the little things, while I'm more calm and open-minded about certain situations.

The reason I agree with this essay is because of real life situations that support all of your details.

Kiseem

Submitted by stephanieb on Tue, 2011-12-13 13:45.

i think that we should always stay clam and open minded unless we have a reason to close our minds and get crazy. But only the best reasons.

- I Love You for who you are

Submitted by krystalm on Thu, 2011-11-10 14:41.

- I Love You for who you are ! point blank period ! your words can touch a person & make a person think above & beyond bout themselves or maybe even just try to imagine things & try to make them reality. You are who you are & i love that about you & your work. <3

Krittleeee

Submitted by stephanieb on Tue, 2011-11-15 13:05.

Thank you so much for your comment know with that being said i love youuuu and you know i stay real to who i am just like you girl ;)

Ohyea My Tumblr appt.lol >;)

Submitted by krystalm on Thu, 2011-11-10 14:54.

Ohyea My Tumblr appt.lol >;)

Dear, Stephanie

Submitted by iniazhab on Thu, 2011-11-10 15:01.

I liked your essay about "The most positive pessimist" because i can relate to the part where you said when i am down and a bit depressed, i don't do much with myself.My energy level on low. I don't want to go out and socialize much and sometimes if it gets me really, bad i barely want to speak to anyone.Moments like that I'd rather stay home and absorb myself more into myself,if that makes sense to others"I believe what you are saying is true cause people can become so depressed and don't want to talk or be bother by anyone cause they are so down they rather be alone.

iniazha

Submitted by stephanieb on Tue, 2011-11-15 13:16.

First i will like to say thank you for your comment it was very well appreciated, and your right they is plenty of people out there like that in this world.

Great Job

Submitted by debral on Thu, 2011-11-10 15:06.

Dear Stephanie,

I think you did a great gob writing about, "The most positive pessimist, because it's interesting and I learned a very few things I can always keep in mind.

One sentence you wrote that stood out for me is: "I am the type who when something goes wrong, I feel as if I should have seen that coming." I think this is true because sometimes I do get involve in certain things and I don't pay close attention but making mistake is what I learn and gain from.

Another sentence I like is,"My outlook is a part of who I am. This stood out for me because I do feel that most people view things differently and I believe that's important.

Thanks foe writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because you work is truly interesting :)

Debra

Submitted by stephanieb on Tue, 2011-11-15 13:17.

First i will like to say thank you for your comment it was very much appreciated, i am glad that you learn a few new things it was one of the main reasons why i choose this topic

Perspective

Submitted by Suzanne on Fri, 2011-11-11 13:21.

Hi Stephanie,
first let me say congratulations for writing this article.  There is a huge value in writing, it makes us think and examine different  viewpoints, just as you have done.  Writing also triggers all kinds of neural activity in the brain which is why journal writing has always been considered a useful tool for self-exploration and understanding.  Your brain thanks you for writing too.
The one thing that hit me most about your piece however, was that every article you cited and every source you used came from the internet!  I feel this may be part of where your pessimism and depression may be coming from as this is only a limited perspective.  Your commects about health and mind-set also raises the issue of electromagnetics and health.  The research is abundant and clear that too much time in front of a computer can have negative health effects both physical and psychological.  Have you ever tried going for a walk in nature when you're having a 'down' day?  It's scientifically proven to improve your headspace and mind-set.  Spending time with a pet also improves our mood which is why dogs and cats are often used in palliative care centers.  Get out from behind the screen and look at the whole wide world not just the web.
Life and the musings of what it means to be a human goes back millenia.  If you can place your thoughts and feeling about the 'cruel' world in a broader and perhaps historical context you might change your views.  You might not, but chances are you'd get a broader perspective on the subject of optimism vs pessimism at the very least.  Fina a great library or bookstore and allow the magic randomness of information to happen, you never know what you will find when you peruse a book stack even when you are looking for something specific. 
I have huge compassion for your plight, don't get me wrong.  And I hope my comments / suggestions don't seem trite.  When I look at the world around me in 2011 I often weep with anger, outrage, despair at how we continue to mess things up so badly.  But then I consider people like Gandhi, Boadicea, Rosa Parks, Galileo, and countless others who stood up, alone, and faced the evil that men do / think by their presence, thoughts and actions and so changed the world for the better.  And every day these people and hundreds of others remind me that it is often the individual who makes the biggest changes in the world.
So I hope that you can find a ray of optimism to inspire you every day of your life.  I hope that you can expand your perspective to understand that sometimes the glass is neither half-fill nor half-empty but thirst quenching.  I hope that you and every member of your generation can indeed be the change you want to see in the world so that happiness can fill your every moment.
walk in beauty
Suzanne.
 

Suzanne

Submitted by stephanieb on Wed, 2011-11-16 13:08.

first i would like to say thank you for your opinion, but i do actually go out for air when im feeling down its whats keeps me going now a days and speaking to the people i trust. i do have my moments when i am completely isolated but they are rare since i know when something is worth feeling bad for or not. i dont spend my time behind the screen this was done obviously for school and i followed instructions. I haven't took my time to read a book in a while but i actually have been meaning to, i heard of a couple of good ones and i think it will be good for everyone.

Nice Work

Submitted by Rex on Fri, 2011-11-11 18:26.

Keep up the great writing, Stephanie.
Of course people will read it, this is the internet.

Well you know

Submitted by stephanieb on Tue, 2011-11-15 13:13.

Well you know

Bouncing Back ...

Submitted by MrHodgson on Fri, 2011-11-11 18:52.

I thought this sentence of yours says a lot: "I don't let my failures define me." Those words indicate that you understand that we need to try new things, and be ready for periodic failure, and then try again.
Your whole piece showed a nice use of writer's "voice," Stephanie, and you nicely balanced your way between your own opinions and inquiry, and the information you were finding to help you on your journey.
Thank you for sharing your piece.
I enjoyed the "positive pessimist" phrasing, too (and I thought: good name for a band, right?)
Sincerely,
Mr. Hodgson

Mr

Submitted by stephanieb on Tue, 2011-11-15 13:19.

Thank you for your comment it might be great for a band i hope i dont hear it come out anytime soon haha. thank you i actually love writing and consider my self a bit of a writer and im proud that it shows through my work.

Response

Submitted by changes on Sat, 2011-11-12 17:08.

This article was very insightful and I know realize that I am a pessimist. I always new that a lot of opinions I had about the world were very negative but I had no idea that blaming oneself can be part of pessimism. Many of things in the article surprised me but I do think that in most descriptions pessimists get the short end of the stick. I believe that the majority of Americans would be considered optimistic pessimists. (Isn't that an oxymoron?) I thought the article was very well-written, I really enjoyed it.

Changes

Submitted by stephanieb on Wed, 2011-11-16 13:02.

Thanks for the comment, your right the pessimist people do get the bad end of the stick and honestly i think that this trait has its advantages.

More research than I would have guessed

Submitted by tommybuteau on Sun, 2011-11-13 14:44.

Stephanie,

I really like your post. It had more research on the issue than I would have ever guessed was available.

After reading it, I think I may be a negative optimist.

When you said, "I am one who can relate. I am the type who, when something goes wrong, I feel as if I should have seen that coming. I often blame myself a lot for not knowing what was going down or not catching on to something when it was right under my nose," it reminded me of myself.

I am not sure why I read that as being a negative optimist though. Maybe it is just that I always expect things to go well, and when it doesn't, I have to really try not to become negative. I start to question, "Why do I even try?"

I also liked how you said exactly what you were doing and checking. I found it very easy to read.

Thanks for sharing your research. It made me think about myself and learn.

Tommy

Tommy

Submitted by stephanieb on Tue, 2011-11-15 12:57.

First i will like to say hank you for your comment it was very much appreciated. second i am glad that you can relate and it helped you learn more about yourself, i also learned a lot more about my self during this process. Honestly even the most optimist person has their low moments, we are all human and that what we should keep in mind.

Stephanie, Your post "The

Submitted by Hannah Brodke on Sun, 2011-11-13 19:05.

Stephanie,

Your post "The Most Positive Pessimist" was both informative and interesting. While reading about your research and the way you applied it to yourself, I started to think about my outlook on the world. I usually think of myself as an optimist, but I could relate to many of the pessimistic qualities you brought up. When I am stressed I find that I don't want to be around people, I bring it out on my family, and I am doubtful that I will ever get through my pile of work.

Thank you for your hard work in compiling this information and your honesty in relating it to yourself. I really enjoyed reading this post.

Hannah

Hannah

Submitted by stephanieb on Tue, 2011-11-15 12:55.

first i will like to say thank you for your comment.
when picking this topic i knew i would have to get a bit personal since it is such a personal topic. i was determined to put my all into this essay even if it did mean stating things i usually will never speak of

Thought Provoking

Submitted by alexmancini on Sun, 2011-11-13 23:18.

Stephanie,

Before reading your article, I liked to think of myself as an optimist. Now, I'm not so sure, and the good part about that, is after reading your piece, I don't view pessimists as sucking the fun out of everything, because their views can be more valid than that of the optimists.

I think one of the strongest parts of your article was how you were so truthful in talking about your own life and the thoughts you have had about this issue. Your not alone. I get caught up thinking the same thing every day, because i think people can sometimes fear depression and try at all costs of convincing themselves they will never be depressed, when the truth is, everybody can get depressed at one time or another. The important thing is how you react to this depression. If you let it consume you, then you might have issues.

The phrase that really stood out to me was "When I get around my family, I just let my depression take over me." I feel like the same thing happens with so many other teens, because we feel like we don't have to put a mask on for our families, which I think can be mostly a good thing, because it gives us time to release our emotions.

I really appreciate all the work you put into this writing, and I hope you can keep doing things like this, because it was really nice reading a refreshing new voice that can relate to other peoples lives so easily.

Dear alex

Submitted by stephanieb on Tue, 2011-11-15 12:50.

thank you so much for you comment i truly appreciated every bit of it. i am very glad to get so much recognition for the emotion and hard work i put into this essay. I really hoped no one would get confused by what i meant when i said around my family i let my depression take over me, but you took the words right out of my mouth and explained it for me. My family out of all people know how to handle with my high and lows, they just know me. thank you once again

Compelling

Submitted by zeegeewee on Mon, 2011-11-14 20:50.

Dear Stephanie,
Your post is very interesting. I commend you on the vast amount of research and work that you put into this piece. I am glad you crossed- checked Wikipedia because it is know to be sometime unreliable. While reading you essay, I found that I am also confused as to what I am, a pessimist or an optimist. It takes awhile to sift through many definitions as well as your own feelings to find this out. The one problem I saw in you essay was repetition. It seemed you needed to focus on editing your papers to produce more concise and direct essays. Otherwise, this was a very good post. Thank you for writing this and I look forward to reading more of your posts.

Thank you i am happy that my

Submitted by stephanieb on Wed, 2011-11-16 13:11.

Thank you i am happy that my hard work is being recognized.

Dear Stephanie, When I read

Submitted by egibbs8 on Mon, 2011-11-14 22:58.

Dear Stephanie,

When I read your article, I kept thinking about something my dad said to me this weekend. He said that happiness is all based on ones attitude. He told me that I wasnt allowed to have a negative attitude because it brings down everyone around me. But your article showed me that it is okay to sometimes be pessimistic. It is not healthy to hold in our emotions -good or bad. I especially like your line " If I ignore feelings and try to just live with it, I wouldn't be able to survive" I think it is great that you stay true to yourself and know who you are!
Great job!
Lizzie

It is true "You're attitude

Submitted by stephanieb on Wed, 2011-11-16 13:10.

It is true "You're attitude toward life determined life's attitude towards you." thank you for your comment.

Stephanie, I really enjoyed

Submitted by Koko Novak on Tue, 2011-11-15 01:34.

Stephanie,
I really enjoyed your essay. It's very easy for me to relate to, becuase even though I am generally a happy person, I do exhibit traits of pessismism at times. Like you, I over anayze every single detail, even when it's completely useless. My family has to deal with my stress, because I let it show the most wen I'm with them. I think it's great that you compiled all of this research and also that you did some soul-searching and assessed what type of person you are.
Thanks for writing this great essay, I found it very applicable to many people who I know, including myself.
Koko

Koko

Submitted by stephanieb on Wed, 2011-11-16 13:00.

Thank you for your comment. i think everyone exhibits traits of both but consume one more then the other. I actually did do a lot of soul searching doing this essay and put a lot of work into it im glad it turned out as good as it did.

Dear Stephanie, Honestly i

Submitted by jimmyq on Tue, 2011-11-15 12:06.

Dear Stephanie,

Honestly i was mind blowen bout the things you said I can see now where people falls in life and the out look in life. People just live life no knowing what it means, if they read this they should get a better insight of life. Thanks for this post and making me realize and things better than ever.

Jimmy

Submitted by stephanieb on Wed, 2011-11-16 12:57.

thank you for your comment it means a lot when someone appreciates something i worked hard on, and your right i think this is something everyone can relate to and should read. They might just learn something new about them selves.

dear stephanie, I enjoy this

Submitted by curtisc on Tue, 2011-11-15 14:53.

dear stephanie,

I enjoy this article alot . it reminds me of the way I handle my problems and situations, when i read this article i thought of the times that i spent feeling depress or being in a bad mood.

one sentence you wrote that stands out for me is when you mentioned
'when I get around my family, I just let my depression take over me'.
i think this is true because when Im around my family i still think about the problem i go threw and not wanting to let them know whats going on.
another sentence that stood out for me was when you stated When a close friend betrays me, I feel as if I have bad judgement, and automatically I feel as if I should improve my judgement so it won't happen again.
sometimes i don't trust my friends cause of what happen in my passed.

your article reminds me of the way i handle my life and what decisions i make to not be angry or depress.

i thank you for sharing this article to everyone. i look forwarding in reading more of your articles. what will bring me back to your articles is your honesty about how things take place.

inquiry .

Submitted by curtisc on Tue, 2011-11-15 14:55.

dear stephanie,

I enjoy this article alot . it reminds me of the way I handle my problems and situations, when i read this article i thought of the times that i spent feeling depress or being in a bad mood.

one sentence you wrote that stands out for me is when you mentioned
'when I get around my family, I just let my depression take over me'.
i think this is true because when Im around my family i still think about the problem i go threw and not wanting to let them know whats going on.
another sentence that stood out for me was when you stated When a close friend betrays me, I feel as if I have bad judgement, and automatically I feel as if I should improve my judgement so it won't happen again.
sometimes i don't trust my friends cause of what happen in my passed.

your article reminds me of the way i handle my life and what decisions i make to not be angry or depress.

i thank you for sharing this article to everyone. i look forwarding in reading more of your articles. what will bring me back to your articles is your honesty about how things take place.

Curits

Submitted by stephanieb on Wed, 2011-11-16 12:55.

Thanks for your comment, these are common things that most people go through, especially at my age.

dear stephanie i loved your

Submitted by leahcimp on Tue, 2011-11-15 15:23.

dear stephanie
i loved your post it really opened my eyes i think a lot of people should turn to this post.it really opened my eyes to me being a pessimist.

one sentence you wrote that stands out for me is the pessimist will see the worst in something.they will then take all the responsibility personally.

i think this is true because i am the same way an many people i know don't seem to understand wen i do it they just think it's another part of my depression

another sentence that i liked was i am also one to get myself into a deeper depression then i already am in since i over-think everything,over-analyze things that i have already analyzed a million times.i try to find solutions even when i know there isn't anything i can do to help,which puts me in a bad position because i want to do more, do better for myself or others. this is especially true for family members,just because i need to help the people i love the most. it makes me feel better about myself to know i have the power to make someone else's life seem easy even when mine is feeling the most complicated.
this stood out for me because i always try to fix other peoples problems if even if i'm the one who needs the most help i wont think of my suffering it kinda easy just to know i effected someone else an some how maybe they would do the same for another
your post reminds me when i was in a deep depression where i would just lay in bed till midnight an just analyzed my life over an over it was like sitting inside your own head an all your memories where static rambling about wondering was you could of did better just sleeping the day away an waking up at midnight everyday to hear the static in your head.
thank you for writing.i look forward to seeing what you write next,because how much i didn't know why i am what i am an may be my life will be more easyer

who i am

Submitted by leahcimp on Tue, 2011-11-15 15:31.

dear stephanie
i loved your post it really opened my eyes i think a lot of people should turn to this post.it really opened my eyes to me being a pessimist.

one sentence you wrote that stands out for me is the pessimist will see the worst in something.they will then take all the responsibility personally.

i think this is true because i am the same way an many people i know don't seem to understand wen i do it they just think it's another part of my depression

another sentence that i liked was i am also one to get myself into a deeper depression then i already am in since i over-think everything,over-analyze things that i have already analyzed a million times.i try to find solutions even when i know there isn't anything i can do to help,which puts me in a bad position because i want to do more, do better for myself or others. this is especially true for family members,just because i need to help the people i love the most. it makes me feel better about myself to know i have the power to make someone else's life seem easy even when mine is feeling the most complicated.
this stood out for me because i always try to fix other peoples problems if even if i'm the one who needs the most help i wont think of my suffering it kinda easy just to know i effected someone else an some how maybe they would do the same for another
your post reminds me when i was in a deep depression where i would just lay in bed till midnight an just analyzed my life over an over it was like sitting inside your own head an all your memories where static rambling about wondering was you could of did better just sleeping the day away an waking up at midnight everyday to hear the static in your head.
thank you for writing.i look forward to seeing what you write next,because how much i didn't know why i am what i am an may be my life will be more easyer

First i will like to say

Submitted by stephanieb on Wed, 2011-11-16 12:52.

First i will like to say thank you for your comment. We all have our moments when we wish we could have done something differently but no one is perfect you should consider them a life lesson.

Dear Stephanie ; After

Submitted by michellea on Sat, 2011-11-19 12:49.

Dear Stephanie ;
After reading your post " the most positive pessimist " I learned a lot . You really got into detail about optimistic and pessimist people . I find myself being pessimist .

One sentence that stands out for me is " I do not let my failures defind me " . Even though I tend to fail things I always let my accomplishments be known . My failures stayd to myself until I find a way to accomplish what I failed .

Another sentence that stood out to me was " pessimist , however , are often able to provide arguements that suggest that their understanding of reality is justified " . I am the type of person to stand up for what I think is right and wrong . I won't stop until you agree with me . It has failed me a few times because people have shown me the other perseptive of the world that I've never seen .

Another sentence that stood out was " even though I know this , I still countines to blame myself even though I try to remind myself that I am only human , and I cannot prevent everything " . I try to take what happens to me and use better judgement so I can prevent bad things . This often seems to fail me because I still tend to go with my bad judgement .

Thanks for writing I'd like to see what else you have to say about pessismist people

Michelle <3

Michelle

Submitted by stephanieb on Tue, 2011-12-13 13:43.

i think that even thou some of these traits are a bad trait i do think they come in handy and depending who you are and how you are you can use it to your advantage, aint nothing wrong with having your own opinions. even if no one agrees with you. i know this.

Hi Stephanie,I really

Submitted by aboulhosn on Sat, 2012-01-21 13:41.

Hi Stephanie,

I really enjoyed your post, "The Most Positive Pessimist," for the way you explored such a huge issue. It can feel so personal and difficult to think of our own shortcomings and challenges, and it is so nice to find comfort in realizing that these issues are so common to the human condition.

It stood out to me when you wrote, "If I ignore feelings and try to just live with it, I wouldn't be able to survive. I honestly think I would kill my emotions more by lying about it, saying something like, life is all great." There is a lot of pressure to be optimistic, especially with the knowledge that it can be so much happier and healthier for a person's life. Your statement here reminds me that honesty (with ourselves, with our feelings, with others) is such an important part of that happiness, too, even when the thoughts are negative. They're still true.

Your post reminds me of a TED Talk I watched recently, which has really stayed with me for a long time. If you're not familiar, TED (Technology, Entertainment, Design) hosts a series of lectures by all sorts of people (some fascinating, others not so much) on a wide range of topics. This particular one was about VULNERABILITY and how much this honesty/weakness affects people's overall outlooks. It's kind of long (like 20 minutes), but it seems like it would be so in line with this topic and your ideas. Check it out here, if you want: http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/en/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

Thank you for your writing, and all of the hard work that really comes through from your research. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because your questions are genuine and your effort is evident in putting it together. I would especially love any further thoughts on this topic, since I think it is one that we continue to explore as we grow and change.

Best,
Amal

Amal

Submitted by stephanieb on Mon, 2012-01-23 10:54.

Thank you for your reply its highly appreciated. I truly think that honesty is a HUGE way i cope with life and its extremes maybe others can thrown on a smile and i wont sit here and act like i don't at times but at the end of the day i have to be truthful to my self and see life or situations as they are. ive honestly been more optimistic and jolly ever since i wrote this essay, how ironic right maybe it did stick with me more then i would have imagined.