Insecurity: What causes it, and how to Help it.
Everybody has a weakness or something that makes them feel like they’re imperfect, or they need to change. One of the main feelings that I believe is causing this is insecurity. I’ve always thought that it meant not being too sure of yourself or feeling shy, but I learned that its much more than that. Based on en.wikipedia.org/wiki/emotional_insecurity its a feeling of unease or nervousness, and could be triggered by feeling vulnerable in some way about oneself; self image or ego. To be honest, I didn’t understand what feeling nervous had to to with it, but it could tie into the feeling of being shy. Its not easy to relieve yourself of insecurity, but there are things that could help. Finding out what the core is to our insecurities for example; money or beauty, can help to determine what we need to focus on.
An insecure person can lack confidence, and may want to isolate themselves from the rest of the crowd. Insecurity can also cause shyness, paranoia, and sometimes: arrogance, aggression and bullying. Insecurity can also be caused by wanting yourself to be a certain way; self image. Sometimes, when we have pictures in our minds about our “ideal self”, its incredibly difficult to accept the way we are; to accept reality. You could also start to feel like suddenly everyone around you are so much better than you. I’ve felt this way on numerous occasions, and I still do. What some people need to realize is that you can’t just get rid of insecurity that easily; its personal. Even though other people don’t see why we’re insecure.
Based on www.pathwaytohappiness.com/writings-insecurity.htm, to build our self confidence and and self esteem, we need to change how we feel about ourselves emotionally, which can be difficult. Changing our emotions requires two core beliefs about self image. Sometimes we feel that we,re not good enough, which is a feeling I'm very sure that everyone has at least felt at one point in there lives. This could deal with money, intelligence, confidence, or sexuality. The second belief is to change the image of success that we feel we should be. When our mind has an image of perfection, it associates it with a picture. Then your mind compares reality to How you think you should look. This results in self rejection when we don’t meet the image of perfection. The second belief we need to get rid of is the fact that we feel we're not good enough. This belief creates the emotions of insecurity and fear. The image of “not being good enough”, is part of our imagination. We have to recognize that we’re the ones observing the self image. We can’t be the image that we’re looking at. Having this view can help change our point of view and maybe even the belief about ourselves.
Our minds, at times, can mislead us, preventing us from improving our self confidence. People are constantly trying to boost their self confidence by trying to become that “perfect person”. This can lead us to believe that we have to be perfect,which is completely false. When we become aware, we can avoid trying to reach perfection and we can focus on what makes a difference in the way that we feel. Change begins with the thoughts in the mind. Insecurity is not easy to overcome, but with advice and changing your point of view, it can definitely help to make it better.